sober and dry Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 No more no less FixItCris I think I have a longer rood, it was 8 years of my life, but, I will get there for sure, sooner or later! Keep on!
Author FixItCris Posted January 15, 2015 Author Posted January 15, 2015 I don't think about her anywhere near as much now. But this afternoon for some reason I had a down moment. They still seem to happen at one point or another most days, but that's better than every waking moment, like it was at first. Not even the first thing I think of in the morning is her anymore. It's a long steep road, but I'm making my way up it, I think I can feel the sunshine already 1
Author FixItCris Posted January 15, 2015 Author Posted January 15, 2015 I wish I had found LS 4 months ago. I could've saved myself so much pain and suffering, and been a couple of months further along in my healing process. I think the big thing I need to learn, is as much as I wanted to believe it, my situation was not unique. I have read it so many times on other posts. But these lessons I have learned I will keep with me forever, and they will make me a stronger person, much better equipped to have a proper fulfilling relationship in the future. I hope to come back here in a few months, fully healed and ready to help other lost souls like myself through this dark ****ty time. Thank you so much to everyone, I couldn't have got to where I am now without you. 2
Author FixItCris Posted January 17, 2015 Author Posted January 17, 2015 I have a date tonight. I've been crying about my ex today, and I have that weird empty feeling in my stomach, anxiety i think. Maybe because dating means the reality of her not coming back has set in. I have met this girl before, and we had a great night, I just hope I don't stuff it up by being preoccupied with these stupid thoughts. 1
Chin Up Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 You'll be fine! Just..focus on your date and having fun..and most importantly, NO talking about your ex or the breakup. Not even once! Keep your mindset simple. Your just going out to have fun and enjoy the company of another person. Have fun! 1
Author FixItCris Posted January 17, 2015 Author Posted January 17, 2015 Thanks! Yeah I am aware of etiquette around ex's and the break up and stuff. Nobody wants to hear that! I think I'm just nervous about being excited for the first time in a while. Onwards and upwards.
Author FixItCris Posted January 18, 2015 Author Posted January 18, 2015 I find it strangely poetic, that today, which would've been our anniversary, I feel like I have truly let go for the first time. 1
bigtrouble Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 I find it strangely poetic, that today, which would've been our anniversary, I feel like I have truly let go for the first time. Happy for you...
Chin Up Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 When you see that glimmer of hope after things have felt so hopeless for months, its the best! Getting dumped isn't the end of the world. Life goes on and you're only as happy as you allow yourself to be. If you choose to think about sad things and wallow in a tub of misery..well, yeah..bad times haha. Happy thoughts! When I realized I had hit a "change" in my thinking/feelings about the breakup, to symbolize it..I rearranged my bedroom furniture and bought all new bedding. Might not make sense to anyone else, but it was great. There was something about sleeping/waking in a "different" room with swanky new bedding. Weirdly sealed the deal for me. A new, different, and better life! Onward and upward, right? 1
Author FixItCris Posted January 18, 2015 Author Posted January 18, 2015 Exactly. The only person who can effect the way I am feeling is myself. So as much as I've wanted to do it, I think today I actually have made a change in my thinking. I am young. I am free. I am fitter and healthier than I have ever been. Women find me attractive. I have everything to offer the right woman when she comes into my life. break ups suck. But life is good. 1
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