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Does coffee/tea=date?


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Hello,

 

I would like to know if being invited to a neighbour's home for tea necessarily means he wants to date? I accepted from a neighbour because we do not know each other, and wanted to make friends and get to know the people who live nearby.

Now, I am wondering if I am being too casual about it, or if I am indeed right, and it is nothing more than having a chat and familiarising?

 

Thank you

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Generally, it'll become more obvious what the person's intentions are during the interaction. The specifics depend upon the person and your culture.

 

In my culture, presuming heterosexual, any time a man seeks the attention of and interaction with a woman alone, meaning just the two of them engaging in any particular activity, unless they already have a history of platonic friendship established, 'it's a date'.

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It is what you make it, as simple as that.

 

Have I invited people too coffee that I could date? Yes

Did I want to get to know them better? Yes

Could something else materialize? Yes

 

One thing at a time

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This sounds like a "get to know you" invitation, not a date - at least that's how I'd interpret it.

 

 

Since you mentioned coffee/tea in your headline, I assume you mean "tea" in the sense of the drink rather than dinner/supper - which tea is in some cultures.

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It's a proto-date until proven otherwise.

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