Gaeta Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 Hi, (having threesomes, an abortion, cheating in a relationship, having an open relationship, sleeping around or whatever you want) and you know for sure it is a deal breaker for your partner It's a deal breaker if done while in a relationship? or he said this would be a deal breaker if he met a girl that had done any of these in her past? If he specified it would be a deal breaker if his gf had done any of these in her past then just come out and tell him. If he is unable to see past some experimentation you did in the past then set him free. On a side note, I bet he's happy to have a girlfriend who knows her way around a bed though. Personally I think it's in the past, it's not who you are today, so it's none of his business but the good people of LS will say otherwise. At 49 it would never cross my mind to tell a man I date what I did and not did in bed before him and I certainly do not want to know about his conquests. Also, lots of people say this and that would be a deal breaker and once they meet a special someone they become a little less judgmental. I heard many times an std would be a deal breaker and when I disclose I carry hsv they were suddenly ok with it. It's easy to be judgmental toward someone you don't know. Not so easy toward someone you like, even more difficult toward someone you love.
bachdude Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 I agree with Gaeta. It never occurred to me to reveal my past sexual experiences and I never had any desire to hear about any sexual experiences of my partners. In fact, if a GF ever started to talk about past sexual experiences I would usually say I didn't feel the need to know! Too much information!!! But I think at a deeper level, there is a difference in values going on here. You think what you did isn't a big deal and you think he would feel it is a big deal. That is a difference in values and I wonder if that difference would get in the way with other things in your relationship as well.
ComingInHot Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 Often times things have a way of coming back on us (good and not so good things*). If he outright asks you, I think your honesty with him will shine in spades. Especially if you word it the way you did in your last post on page one. If he doesn't straight up ask you, then it is a part of you and your past. No sense in reliving something you don't regret but also don't have a passion for and feeling judged and punished for it. You know your man best though. So think about how you wish for things to go if/when they come to light. CiH* 1
AVarma Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 Only the Sith deal in absolutes. I knew if I stayed on Loveshack long enough somebody would quote Star Wars.
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