goldbond Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 So I recently met someone on nye and we hit it off super well. We actually met one time before that (I was drunkish) months ago but ran into each other on nye and spent a couple hours together. So last weekend I invited him out with friends and was insanely nervous/anxious so I drank way too much and basically made a huge ass out of myself. It's not often I meet someone I like that much initially so I was quite anxious (also fairly inexperienced with this stuff anyway). Apparently he left the first bar because I wasn't really paying attention to him, then I met up with him at another and we were basically all over each other. And he was doing other cute things like handholding, etc. so I thought, awesome! I'm fixing this. But nope!! (Maybe I should mention here that he basically doesn't drink at all) The night ended by him coming over for approximately one minute and then leaving-because I was too drunk. Ooooooops. I texted him a few days ago apologizing and acknowledging my behavior and asking for a sober hang out and no response. I'm going to assume this is screwed? If you have advice id love it, if not advice then maybe at least get a laugh out of my drunk behavior . And learn from my terrible yet kind of hilarious mistake... 2
PegNosePete Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 You've done what you can, and apologised. If he doesn't respond then just move on, and don't do the same thing next time!
Andy_K Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 Someone who doesn't drink probably isnt going to be compatible with someone who gets drunk. If he was the kind of guy who gets drunk every now and then, he would probably be pretty understanding and cool with it. Since he doesn't, it's a jarring highlight for him of how different you are. That has most likely turned him off. Either date guys more like you, or become more like the guys you want to date. 3
kendahke Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 (edited) So I recently met someone on nye and we hit it off super well. We actually met one time before that (I was drunkish) months ago but ran into each other on nye and spent a couple hours together. So last weekend I invited him out with friends and was insanely nervous/anxious so I drank way too much and basically made a huge ass out of myself. It's not often I meet someone I like that much initially so I was quite anxious (also fairly inexperienced with this stuff anyway). Apparently he left the first bar because I wasn't really paying attention to him, then I met up with him at another and we were basically all over each other. And he was doing other cute things like handholding, etc. so I thought, awesome! I'm fixing this. But nope!! (Maybe I should mention here that he basically doesn't drink at all) The night ended by him coming over for approximately one minute and then leaving-because I was too drunk. Ooooooops. I texted him a few days ago apologizing and acknowledging my behavior and asking for a sober hang out and no response. I'm going to assume this is screwed? If you have advice id love it, if not advice then maybe at least get a laugh out of my drunk behavior . And learn from my terrible yet kind of hilarious mistake... You might want to leave alcohol alone for a while. The two times he's seen you, you've been blotto. If he doesn't drink, then he's not seeing any point in a person who gets blindingly drunk. Edited January 13, 2015 by kendahke 1
Author goldbond Posted January 13, 2015 Author Posted January 13, 2015 You might want to leave alcohol alone for a while. The two times he's seen you, you've been blotto. If he doesn't drink, then he's not seeing any point in a person who gets blindingly drunk. Yeah I totally get that. It is time for me to lay off it. I suppose this was a good learning experience if nothing else however, I do like to drink and that's not likely to change. But the amount, yes...
kendahke Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 Yeah I totally get that. It is time for me to lay off it. I suppose this was a good learning experience if nothing else however, I do like to drink and that's not likely to change. But the amount, yes... Take care of your liver now while you're young so that it's not rebelling on you when you're past 50.
Art_Critic Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 If he is looking at you at this point it is only to boink... For someone who doesn't drink that much to date someone who drinks to excess each time I would think it would have 100% failure rate... I would call this one done, but if he is still in it then you need to realize he is only going to use you for sex. 1
ASG Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 Someone who doesn't drink probably isnt going to be compatible with someone who gets drunk. If he was the kind of guy who gets drunk every now and then, he would probably be pretty understanding and cool with it. Since he doesn't, it's a jarring highlight for him of how different you are. That has most likely turned him off. Either date guys more like you, or become more like the guys you want to date. This is right on the money. I once dated someone who didnt drink at all, and even though I don't tend to get blind drunk, just the fact that I might be a bit buzzed was the source of MANY arguments between us. On the other hand, new FWB gets drunk as much and as often as I do, so when I sent him texts that made, literally, no sense, he was fairly ok with it, and poked some fun at me and my drunkenness and it was all good! 1
me85 Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 OP, we've all been guilty of this at least once in our lives. You're only human. So you got a bit drunk?? You were nervous. You apologized, which was the right thing so if he hasn't responded...oh well. Lesson learned, just try not to get too drunk next time on a date with a guy.
evanescentworld Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 Drunkeness is in my top 5 turnoffs. It's my TOP turn-off. 3
Mrin Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 I drink and sometimes drink to excess. But if I were him I'd be out the door too. He's seen you twice. Both times you've been drunk. One time really drunk. Sorry - but this is supposed to be the time when you are both on your best behavior. In my mind I would be thinking - if this is good behavior I would sure hate to see her when she's comfortable around me. Frankly, you came off as an alcoholic especially to a non drinker. Move along and try to keep it in check next time.
dj572 Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 I am a non drinker and I have tried to date drinkers and it doesn't work for me. To me there is nothing more annoying than a drunk person. I don't like to be around them. I can't speak for him but now I don't even try to date somebody who drinks.
doeblin Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 When I'm out with friends I rarely stop at 4 drinks... but when I see a woman totally plastered I get disappointed in her. Double standards maybe, but that's just the way it is.
callingyouuu Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 I am a non drinker and I have tried to date drinkers and it doesn't work for me. To me there is nothing more annoying than a drunk person. I don't like to be around them. I can't speak for him but now I don't even try to date somebody who drinks. I'm similar. I actually don't mind social drinkers who just want a buzz, but dating someone who gets drunk frequently would make me feel like a part-time babysitter whenever we go out. 1
Author goldbond Posted January 13, 2015 Author Posted January 13, 2015 Thanks all! I'm super bummed he's not giving me another chance but I respect it. Time for me to make some changes I appreciate everyone's input so much!
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