365daysgone Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 I met this lady at her house on Sunday night after like 30 mins of talking through Tinder. It was 11 at night when I got to her house. We ended up having drinks and staying up until 5 in the morning together. She told me she was weary about doing it cause she never does that. As we got more comfortable throughout the night she was telling me over and over again how much she likes me and is glad that I came over. We made plans for breakfast the next morning. The next morning I was hungover so I wasby very chatty and breakfast felt really off with her. I drove her home after breakfast and she said she would text me or I could text her. I texted her thanking her for breakfast but I still haven't heard anything back from her and it's now Tuesday morning. I'm so confused by this. Could the breakfast have been the reason? Would that really be enough to wipe away the whole previous night?? She's been signing into Tinder too so it's not like she hasn't checked her phone :/
kendahke Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 could be she was put off by your change in demeanor. You may have come across as if you felt you made a mistake--or were rejecting her once the liquor wore off-- and she's trying to protect her feelings by not subjecting herself to more rejection.
Toodaloo Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 could be she was put off by your change in demeanor. You may have come across as if you felt you made a mistake--or were rejecting her once the liquor wore off-- and she's trying to protect her feelings by not subjecting herself to more rejection. I am thinking exactly this. In the beginning it is never a good idea for a potential beau to see you bladdered or hungover and grumpy as... also avoid when ill as everyone is a grumpy so and so when ill...
Author 365daysgone Posted January 13, 2015 Author Posted January 13, 2015 Hmm so then how can you rectify the situation?
Hopes Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 I agree with the others, this is why I think it if you wish to read, but I am not trying to hijack the thread. yeah, I met this girl here and we hit it off. We met twice, and the second time I went straight for a kiss. Worked great. We met more and more and I tried to push things a little bit farther, for instance, I tried to kiss her when she showed up once and it was a little awkward but I still got a good night kiss.. Some good make out sessions, especially one night when we went out to a club together. Though she wasn't ready for sex. Then one night, I had all day drinking party I told her about, but she wanted to go out that night with me anyway. So we went out, great, I was extremely drunk after drinking from 3 pm, and we made it to my place around 4 am. Passed out, next morning she went home telling me she would come back that night and bring me dinner and what not. When she came back, I was still extremely hung over and tired. The next time she was over I tried to kiss her, she pulled back. I asked her if she was uncomfortable and she was, because of how I was the last time she was over. Like I wasn't excited she was there and didn't seem to give a crap when in reality I was massively tired and hungover is all.
losangelena Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 Approach her? Tell her you had a good time and would like to see her again? Speaking from experience, that can be a very hard thing to encounter, that change in demeanor. The first time I went over to my BF's place, he made breakfast the next morning, but it also felt SO AWKWARD, so unlike our fun and easy chemistry the night before. I thought for sure he must have lost interest, because he was so quiet the next day. I spent days feeling bad about it, until the next time I saw him and he brought me flowers. That whole week I was so sure he was about to jump ship. Turns out, he's just not much of a morning person, but at the time I had no way of knowing that! I'd reach out to her again if I were you. Don't mention what happened, just keep things moving forward. 1
SycamoreCircle Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 Tinder is the apotheosis of non-committal interaction. To try and decipher behavior is pointless.
Assada Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 Why did OP leave out such important info!!! Diid you have sex with her?
Author 365daysgone Posted January 14, 2015 Author Posted January 14, 2015 Why did OP leave out such important info!!! Diid you have sex with her? I did have sex with her but due to the alcohol, I didn't get very hard and also wasn't able to finish. So ya...that's more than likely the actual reason. In my experience, girls will never talk to you again if that ends up happening no matter what the reason lol
losangelena Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 I know you're kind of joking, but that's quite the generalization. In all seriousness, not all women would lose your number after that happened, though if it was your first time together, she might seriously think you weren't turned on enough by her to get hard unless you explained to her otherwise. I know alcohol impedes an erection, but in the moment I wouldn't equate one with the other. Judging by everything you've said about how this date went, if I were that woman, I would be thinking that you don't like me that much! Have you tried to contact her again?
d0nnivain Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 I did have sex with her but due to the alcohol, I didn't get very hard and also wasn't able to finish. So ya...that's more than likely the actual reason. In my experience, girls will never talk to you again if that ends up happening no matter what the reason lol Never is harsh but if you like her & want to see her again. Call her up. Ask for a 2nd date. Promise not to drink & try again.
Author 365daysgone Posted January 14, 2015 Author Posted January 14, 2015 I know you're kind of joking, but that's quite the generalization. In all seriousness, not all women would lose your number after that happened, though if it was your first time together, she might seriously think you weren't turned on enough by her to get hard unless you explained to her otherwise. I know alcohol impedes an erection, but in the moment I wouldn't equate one with the other. Judging by everything you've said about how this date went, if I were that woman, I would be thinking that you don't like me that much! Have you tried to contact her again?i did text her last night. Got a responce and she did apologize for not responding. She is busy moving this week so I offered to help. Meh. I leave it alone for now. I thought she was really fun to hang out with despite a bit of an age gap but I'm gonna try not to get hung up on her since she seeks to be trying not to get hung up on me.
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