Satu Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 Thats the thing we haved talked it out and she just goes right back how she was just a few days that pass, not answering her phone or texts due to that she is with her kids or mother, then after she will call and im not cool with that anymore, *she is just being sellfish, when she needs me she calls and she right there when i call her and picks up on the first ring but other than that its hours before she would call. I have told her many times that it takes two to tango, but she tells me what i want to hear than changes right back to her old self wanting to have the cake and eat it too. Im going silent until she changes and if not again, im done and moving on. You are both being selfish, and your way of relating to each other seems to be about messing with each others heads. There is a fundamental dishonesty at play in the way you both attempt to manipulate each others thoughts and feelings. No contact is a tool for healing, and not meant to be used as a weapon or punishment. I find myself wondering if you even like each other. 2
Author bigfred Posted January 13, 2015 Author Posted January 13, 2015 No she won't. She'll do what she has to do to get you back where she wants you to be, then she'll go back to the behavior that best suits her. She's done this over and over and you fall for it every time. WOW!, you are so coorect in so many levels thats exactly whats happening! Going silent and moving on!! 1
Simon Phoenix Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 WOW!, you are so coorect in so many levels thats exactly whats happening! Going silent and moving on!! I just think you aren't compatible. What she wants and what you want aren't the same. Instead of staying tethered to each other and engaging in a tug of war, it's best for both of you to find people that are better fits. 2
tikay00 Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 I get the jist of this thread. OP is scared she's stringing him along, and he has talked to her on several occasions about this. He has no trust for her, because she did indeed leave him. Ex goes hot and cold on him, and he tells her it's not right. She gets mad, and leaves again. Most likely, OP is jumping into the relationship like it was the old relationship, and gets over bearing with her, and gets clingy. She freaks out, and leaves again. This relationship is dead and gone. Why would you want to go through this over and over again? Just move on. 1
coolheadal Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 NC = no contact and no commutation what so ever! NG = never give in (but that's what you have been doing many times) like a merry-go-round. BEC = Block the Ex cell phone number and end this messy mess for good! 2
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