musicalsteve82 Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 Would you pretend you did at first? Would you ignore them and not respond? Or would you tell them. Be honest please.
WonderWoman911 Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 It depends on how that first date went. If that person was a jerk or a wacko,lol..then I would ignore them. I wouldn't waste my time or energy in giving them your reason(s). They'll eventually get the picture. But if the date was okay.... I would just tell them " I had a nice time and you seem to be a nice person,but I think we're just two different people. But take care".(In a nutshell).Just be honest.
Author musicalsteve82 Posted January 13, 2015 Author Posted January 13, 2015 I heard people pretend they want a second date a lot
d0nnivain Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 I have never heard of that. If I didn't want a second date at the end of the 1st date, I said, thank you for the date but I don't see a future for us. 1
gaius Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 I have a good idea before I go on a first date if I want a second one or not, so that's never really an issue. 1
venusishername Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 I have a good idea before I go on a first date if I want a second one or not, so that's never really an issue. That's a good one! I feel the same, actually. But... in the event I DIDN'T want a second date, I would NEVER pretend that I did. I would say I'm sorry, I just don't think it's a good fit. Take care! 2
d0nnivain Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 I have a good idea before I go on a first date if I want a second one or not, so that's never really an issue. If before the 1st date you already know you don't want a 2nd one, why go? I have had 1st dates fizzle out but when I agreed to the dates & showed up it was with a sense of optimism that this would go forward. Some times those hopes were dashed within the 1st few minutes but the idea of a 2nd date was possible. 1
Redhead14 Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 Would you pretend you did at first? Would you ignore them and not respond? Or would you tell them. Be honest please. I would say I had a nice time with you the other night, however, I don't think we are a good match and thank you just the same for the invite. 1
J21 Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 I usually play it by ear. If first date went well, I would want a second. If first date didnt go well, no thanks on the second. 1
gaius Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 If before the 1st date you already know you don't want a 2nd one, why go? I don't really. Was hoping nobody would catch that interpretation of my post. Guess I've been lucky but I have a good track record of telling beforehand if we're going to be good together, haven't yet shown up and been surprised in a bad way. I don't ask out a ton of women and the ones that make it to a first date from there always end up being those I want to pursue for a while. 1
venusishername Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 (edited) I don't really. Was hoping nobody would catch that interpretation of my post. Guess I've been lucky but I have a good track record of telling beforehand if we're going to be good together, haven't yet shown up and been surprised in a bad way. I don't ask out a ton of women and the ones that make it to a first date from there always end up being those I want to pursue for a while. That's probably a good way to approach dating! I don't go out with someone unless I have a good feeling there is interest enough to progress past date one anyway. Who has time to waste?? Edited January 13, 2015 by venusishername 2
slizl Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 I think the OP is asking if people say they had a good time on a first date and maybe even said they shoudl do it again sometime but never contact again. Being completely honest, I would thank them for a great date, tell them I had a good time and probably never contact them again. I tend to wimp out on rejecting people
TabbyHearts Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 well, let's say hypothetically it goes like this: Guy: We should do this again sometime! Talk to you soon. Girl: OK, bye! It's a lot easier to say "ok" to a very hypothetical situation in the hopes there will be no follow up than to stop and say "well no, let's not."
xXMarlboro_ManXx Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 well, let's say hypothetically it goes like this: Guy: We should do this again sometime! Talk to you soon. Girl: OK, bye! It's a lot easier to say "ok" to a very hypothetical situation in the hopes there will be no follow up than to stop and say "well no, let's not." Yeah that is pretty normal, the casual goodbyes of "see you later" etc. don't really mean anything. When you aren't interested and they start talking about making plans for the next one it isn't hard to give them a clear message not to waste their time. About a year about I had what I thought was a pretty good date and after our hug goodbye she says something along the lines of "Lets do this at my place next time", I was interested but never heard from her again. It has been a blessing in disguise though, since then I never stress out or analyze first dates anymore. So basically if you are not interested don't make plans, it is very rude.
Author musicalsteve82 Posted January 16, 2015 Author Posted January 16, 2015 (edited) I think the OP is asking if people say they had a good time on a first date and maybe even said they shoudl do it again sometime but never contact again. Being completely honest, I would thank them for a great date, tell them I had a good time and probably never contact them again. I tend to wimp out on rejecting people No, I meant actually making plans on a certain day and time, and hearing from them again. Edited January 16, 2015 by musicalsteve82
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