colvin Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 (edited) well the woman im in love with is always bringing his name up some way. if its briefly if she needs to talk to him or bring up they have talked about something that has nothing to do with her son. They have a horrible past together but were good friends it sounds like. he won custody of their son and cheated on her aloooootttt!!! but after her divorce with him and in between relationships she would still go on dates with him and had sex. ive told her i dont like it and im insecure about it. She still talks to him like friends and brings up all the big things she has got out that time. When we have problems she says dont mean to bring him up but this is what we did. We got into a big arguement because i finally broke thinking she was doing pintrest stuff with him but it was her son because they have the same name. She defends her situation and im tired of it. i want it to work but it just seems like he will always be there and it seems more than just for their son. Funny thing is they been apart 2 years divorced 1 yr. the woman he is with now is pregnant and some one he was with when they were together. She acts like she doesnt care and she is very good at hiding her feelings. Ive bent over backwards for this woman emotionally and financially. She keeps defending the situation and say im to insecure and now im pscho for telling her im tired of it...We screwed up one night and had a threesome with another girl and i was pretty muched left out aswell. Then she talks about other men she has been with would of liked watching. the funny thing is he is the only other man she has done that with..... I regret doing that because i was crushed how it felt like i wasnt even there.....What the hell do i do? She either doesnt understand where im coming from or just dont care about my feelings. Edited January 13, 2015 by colvin
Satu Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 (edited) Don't respond when she brings him up. Say nothing and literally turn your face away. If she carries on, walk out of the room without a word. Then carry on as if nothing happened. Give her a smile. You can't stop her from bringing it up, but you can stop responding to it. It will feel a little odd in the beginning, but after a while you'll be much more at ease. I've seen this work many times, and I've never seen it fail. Edited January 13, 2015 by Satu 1
Author colvin Posted January 13, 2015 Author Posted January 13, 2015 now how can i use that when im on the phone? i work in the oilfield and gone at times. Im not sure if we are broken up but i believe she is still at my house..So i pretty much dont even talk to her when im home if she is there?
d0nnivain Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 He will always be the father of her son. As such he will always be in her life. If you don't like that, you probably need to date someone else. She may still be hung up on him. An occasional mention of an EX is one thing. Talking about him all the time is a problem.
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