Gloria25 Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 Ok, I was watching Judge Mathis today on break and this case was so interesting...I mean I was like "no way". Anywho, the chick was suing a guy she shacked up with for money she said he owed her cuzshe covered certain expenses. Now, she was all upset cuz she claimed that the guy promised her this and that, but was a liar...a liar to the extent he was coming up with fake medical diagnosis to get out of the RL. Well, after talking to both parties, the Judge was so upset that he was like 'Hey people - especially women - out there...when you pressure a guy for this or that, he'll get to the point that he'll just tell you what you wanna hear'. So, here, the guy told her that he wasn't ready for a commitment...but, she insisted they put a "label" on what they were...then, she pushed for them to move in together (shacking up)...then, she wanted him to commit to her and that's when he started lying about having medical issues instead of just breaking up with her (I guess he wanted her to do the break up?) So guys, have you ever been in a situation that a chick put so much pressure on you that youjust went with the flow, told her what she wanted to hear and/or acquiesced to whatever she wanted? How far did you take it (i.e. shacking up, marriage, having kids)? I mean, sometimes my mum puts pressure on me and instead of standing up to her, and like the guy in this Judge show, I end up getting frustrated, pressured - but instead of passive/aggressive tactics to get her to back down, I get upset and blow up.
WonderWoman911 Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 What Judge Mathis said was so true. I know people who was pressured to get married and now they regret being married. They felt like they didn't want to do it in the first place, so now everything is just miserable. With the guys I've dated, I never pressured any of them to do something they didn't want to do or feel a certain way. And I don't want that same feeling reciprocated.
Rejected Rosebud Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 A woman I know pressured her boyfriend to marry her and he did. Within a year they were separated and getting divorced. He was very resentful of her and he also felt like a wimp for caving.
Frank2thepoint Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 So guys, have you ever been in a situation that a chick put so much pressure on you that youjust went with the flow, told her what she wanted to hear and/or acquiesced to whatever she wanted? Sadly, yes I have been in such a situation. I moved in with one of my ex-girlfriends. I almost acquiesced to a lot of things with her. My only excuse, I was young and dumb. But the real reason is I didn't have a backbone and the sex was really good. We did argue a lot, and at times I felt powerless, but luckily I never married her. She tried to get me to marry her, several times she tried to manipulate me. Even had a near-pregnancy scare. I eventually ended the relationship because I was exhausted from the bullsh*t. But that's the beautify of mistakes, you learn from them and grow.
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