Established a relationship with a GF - how often should text her? Payment for dinner?

[TheLonesomeWarrior]

So I have been paired up with a girl, whom I like, and she also likes me. We have been dating for the past, eh, three months.

 

She's decent looking, her education background is on-par with mine, and her family background is also good (although I have yet to meet her parents).

 

We have been going on a lot of dinner dates either once a week, or meeting once every two weeks.

 

The reason is I am a very busy person, working as a nurse aide in a hospital, crazy 12-hour shifts. She works an 8-hour job at a clinical lab at another hospital, Mon - Fri, and this is the reason why we only meet once every two weeks for dinner and other activities.

 

We also have been hugging each other when we meet up. I also peck a kiss on her cheek. She never pecked a kiss back to me, as she had a cold (coughing, etc..)

 

So the big question is, how often should I be texting her?

 

I feel that there is an empty void, as I come home late from my job (around 11PM), and don't feel like sending her a text message late at night.

 

I also have sent her text messages a month ago. But these text messages were the common, "so how was your day?" After a while, these kinds of things get boring, no?

 

So these days, the only time I send my girlfriend a text message is when I ask when she wants to meet up and where she wants to eat at.

 

 

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Last question is are guys required to pay for all the dinner tab?

 

I paid for our first date dinner, she paid for the second dinner. Ever since the second dinner date, she never even offered or made a single move to pay for the last four dinner dates.

[TheLonesomeWarrior]

*Bump Bump*

[me85]

Gotta step it up a bit. I know it's hard to make time to make each other feel special when you can't be together that often but I would insist on more messaging and talking on the phone since you only see each other every 2 weeks. (BUMMER)

 

Also, there's no rule that the guy should always pick up the tab. It's just a very gentlemanly gesture to do so. Talk to your gf more about these things. She's really the only one who can help you ... when it comes to what you should be doing in regards to her.

Edited January 15, 2015 by me85

[SomeDude16]

I know you said your work schedules conflict and making meeting difficult but would it be possible to meet up during your breaks to go for a walk or food? This might be a good way to see each other more frequently if the times work.

 

As for the texting, I'd suggest calling instead. Women love receiving phone calls, and you can pick up on tones that would be non existent in texting. Just don't over do it. A call every two to three days should suffice. Text when you feel like it. As for paying, I make it clear that with every girl I'm in a relationship that we will trade off paying. Every three or 4 dates she pays the bill which always works for me. I understand men are not made of money. You can mention it, she should understand.

 

Best of luck, keep us updated