AVarma Posted January 12, 2015 Posted January 12, 2015 It's something I've occasionally thought about since my family is dysfunctional as anything but have any of you thought about getting married without your parents knowing about it? Would you marry somebody else if he/she didn't want to tell their parents?
Mal78 Posted January 12, 2015 Posted January 12, 2015 It's something I've occasionally thought about since my family is dysfunctional as anything but have any of you thought about getting married without your parents knowing about it? Would you marry somebody else if he/she didn't want to tell their parents? Why don't you want them to know? If they are reasons that can be solved with eloping the elope such as drama at your wedding, worrying about inviting certain people...ect How old are you might I ask and how long have you been in your current relationship?
Author AVarma Posted January 12, 2015 Author Posted January 12, 2015 Why don't you want them to know? If they are reasons that can be solved with eloping the elope such as drama at your wedding, worrying about inviting certain people...ect How old are you might I ask and how long have you been in your current relationship? I'm a 28 year old man who has never been in a relationship before. This is all purely hypothetical.
Mr. Lucky Posted January 12, 2015 Posted January 12, 2015 I'm a 28 year old man who has never been in a relationship before. This is all purely hypothetical. Then hypothetically, tell everyone. Wouldn't the continued presence of your spouse and eventual appearance of kids be a dead giveaway? Mr. Lucky 1
MissBee Posted January 12, 2015 Posted January 12, 2015 (edited) It's something I've occasionally thought about since my family is dysfunctional as anything but have any of you thought about getting married without your parents knowing about it? Would you marry somebody else if he/she didn't want to tell their parents? Do you mean eloping and keeping the wedding/day you marry a secret or do you mean going through life and pretending you aren't married and keeping the fact that you're married a secret? I can understand eloping and not having a wedding but I can't imagine pretending to your parents that you are not married. No I wouldn't want to marry someone who planned to act like they weren't married and didn't plan to tell their parents. I get not being close to them but I don't see why they'd need to pretend to not be married or omit the fact that they're married. Edited January 12, 2015 by MissBee
d0nnivain Posted January 12, 2015 Posted January 12, 2015 No. The secret part is a problem I don't have a problem insulating people from the dysfunctional family but to affirmatively hide a marriage from them, is a problem. I would say that when I was younger, my parents only ever met about 20% of the people I dated & probably only knew about 50%. I felt no need to mix the two worlds. I had about 5 serious relationships as an adult which all lasted multiple years. My family met them. I met their families. Some we spent time together most we did not. 1
Toodaloo Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 It's something I've occasionally thought about since my family is dysfunctional as anything but have any of you thought about getting married without your parents knowing about it? Would you marry somebody else if he/she didn't want to tell their parents? Depends. One of my cousins (I think she is a 3rd cousin or one that has a twice removed in there somewhere, I know all of my extended family fairly well so we end up just referring to each other as cousins...) has serious problems with her parents and the only "parental figure" she has been able to have a proper daughter/ parent relationship with is one of her step fathers. He was going through a break down, her mother had run off (again yawn)... So my cousin eloped, had a wonderful day and announced a week later. We were all thrilled for her as we all understood why she went about it the way she did and we were all thrilled that she is settled and happy. Her mother was a tad annoyed for want of a better phrase... If its hiding the marriage all together thats a whole other ball game and not at all good.
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