polaske93 Posted January 12, 2015 Posted January 12, 2015 Just curious, it's been months down the road, maybe years. The fog that blinded you for so long has been lifted, and you finally see the person you were really dating. You see how they treated you, and what their intentions were, you see how bad of a person they really are. Your disgusted with the fact that this person ever meant so much to you. Yet you still long to hear their voice, or have a conversation like the old days?. I'm curious after weeks of not thinking of my ex, or laughing at the thought of her. Today I am drowning on the thought of talking to her, I miss her laugh, her smile, our conversations more then anything.. 1
runredlights Posted January 12, 2015 Posted January 12, 2015 This is quite a loaded thread. I think a lot of us can't see the forest through the tress. When a few months go by after a breakup you can begin to see how incompatible the two of you may have been. You probably miss their company and I miss my ex's company as well, but I know we would have never gotten married or anything.
Ieris Posted January 12, 2015 Posted January 12, 2015 I don't miss him, I miss the person I thought he was x 6
Zapbasket Posted January 12, 2015 Posted January 12, 2015 Absolutely. Both of the exes whom I truly loved, I miss--my 2013 ex, and my 2007 ex. I think when there was love, it's natural you would miss them. After all, there is more to them than who they were while dating us. I think of love relationships as great dramas, where we play out the stories of our earliest experiences, some of us with more self-awareness than others. When there is self awareness, there is a relationship created in the present that touches on the real people we really are. But when there is none, the dynamics of the relationship are mostly just dramas of projection, each person seeing the other as stand-ins of people in his or her past. I miss those two exes because I could see who they truly "are" alongside the way they were in our relationship, the dramas they played out with me. I really enjoyed their company and I miss the conversations I could have with them, and the things they exposed me to by virtue of where they were from and their life experiences, etc. I feel a hole in my life from the absence of each of them. I truly enjoyed having these men in my life and I wish there were some way they could be in my life today, but perhaps just appreciating the good of what I had is enough. 1
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