gypsy916 Posted January 12, 2015 Posted January 12, 2015 Hi I'm new here, but I've been a reader for a long time. I have a weird situation with a guy that I'm interested in. There has been mutual interest, but we have not been able to talk until recently due to other relationships and circumstances. There's a lot of detail to this, but I'm going to keep it short for now. We know each other through a mutual friend (another guy) and that friend has been giving me bits and pieces of information about this guy. One thing my "friend" told me recently was that my crush was from the same state as me. Well this turns out not to be true. I found out last night when my crush and I finally started talking (via text) and I asked him. His response was that our friend was "kidding with me." But I didn't get that vibe at all when he told me where he was from initially. I have a gut feeling that my friend and this guy are closer than they let on, and that my crush knows more about me than I have personally divulged. Also the text messaging last night was a little odd. So basically, I'm trying to figure out if the two of them are using persuasion techniques on me. I've dealt with pick-up artist stuff before, which is how I know about it :/. Anyway, here is an example of some of the texts: All three of these back to back in response to me: "Lol, no you don't, I love that you like it." "I love to hear about it." "Not as often as I would love to" Then telling me that my home state is actually his favorite place.. And the last text of the night which I find quite confusing and unnatural: "I don't wanna be too formal, so I'm gunna say this, I enjoy talking with you, so I hope I hear more from you, don't get lost out there and have a goodnight." (He had not used casual terms like wanna and gunna up until that point and it doesn't seem to fit his verbal style at all) So, guys.. and girls if you have any insight, am I being far too over-analytical? Or is there something going on here?
Redhead14 Posted January 12, 2015 Posted January 12, 2015 Hi I'm new here, but I've been a reader for a long time. I have a weird situation with a guy that I'm interested in. There has been mutual interest, but we have not been able to talk until recently due to other relationships and circumstances. There's a lot of detail to this, but I'm going to keep it short for now. We know each other through a mutual friend (another guy) and that friend has been giving me bits and pieces of information about this guy. One thing my "friend" told me recently was that my crush was from the same state as me. Well this turns out not to be true. I found out last night when my crush and I finally started talking (via text) and I asked him. His response was that our friend was "kidding with me." But I didn't get that vibe at all when he told me where he was from initially. I have a gut feeling that my friend and this guy are closer than they let on, and that my crush knows more about me than I have personally divulged. Also the text messaging last night was a little odd. So basically, I'm trying to figure out if the two of them are using persuasion techniques on me. I've dealt with pick-up artist stuff before, which is how I know about it :/. Anyway, here is an example of some of the texts: All three of these back to back in response to me: "Lol, no you don't, I love that you like it." "I love to hear about it." "Not as often as I would love to" Then telling me that my home state is actually his favorite place.. And the last text of the night which I find quite confusing and unnatural: "I don't wanna be too formal, so I'm gunna say this, I enjoy talking with you, so I hope I hear more from you, don't get lost out there and have a goodnight." (He had not used casual terms like wanna and gunna up until that point and it doesn't seem to fit his verbal style at all) So, guys.. and girls if you have any insight, am I being far too over-analytical? Or is there something going on here? He prefaced that statement with I don't wanna be too formal, so he used less formal verbiage. Simple. You're over analyzing
preraph Posted January 12, 2015 Posted January 12, 2015 You know how there's a pickup artist trick of lying and saying you like everything the girl you're trying to pick up likes or have that in common? It's possible that those two are in cahoots doing that about your state. I hope I'm wrong. But there's definitely some degree of collusion there, even if it is not that particular thing. Keep talking until you feel you're getting the real him. Ask him lots of questions to find out his background, his first job, what city it was in, etc.
Author gypsy916 Posted January 12, 2015 Author Posted January 12, 2015 You know how there's a pickup artist trick of lying and saying you like everything the girl you're trying to pick up likes or have that in common? It's possible that those two are in cahoots doing that about your state. I hope I'm wrong. But there's definitely some degree of collusion there, even if it is not that particular thing. Keep talking until you feel you're getting the real him. Ask him lots of questions to find out his background, his first job, what city it was in, etc. Preraph, Thanks for validating my concerns. I tend to analyze things pretty deeply, but my gut is usually right. My friend is actually married and I am friends with he and his wife. I don't think he's doing anything behind her back.. but I do think he is trying to help his friend out. This just stinks because I really do like the guy! I just want to get to know him for who he is. I want to have real conversations without getting the vibe that things are being framed and phrased in certain ways. Why do men buy into this stuff?!! I really hope I'm wrong about this though. If anyone else has advice let me know...
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