What does it mean when a guy says he's a brick wall of emotions now because of bad...

[HappyendGirl]

What does it mean when a guy says he's a brick wall of emotions now because of bad experiences in the past?My friend is dating a great girl and he said that he's had bad experiences with women in the past and he's a brick wall of emotions and he's dating someone but can't fully get into it? does it mean he's protecting himself emotionally? or he doesn't like the girl? cause he told me. he rrally likes the girl so im confused.

[ExpatInItaly]

He's into her but admits he's afraid of being vulnerable and opening up.

[HappyendGirl]

He's into her but admits he's afraid of being vulnerable and opening up.

 

Interesting...he also told me he broke it off with her a few mobths ago because things were starting to get serious...so.he has commitment issues?

[amaysngrace]

He has his guard up. It's not fair of him to be in a relationship with anybody right now.

 

He's not willing to give of himself or can't. Whatever. It's still not fair.

[Redhead14]

What does it mean when a guy says he's a brick wall of emotions now because of bad experiences in the past?My friend is dating a great girl and he said that he's had bad experiences with women in the past and he's a brick wall of emotions and he's dating someone but can't fully get into it? does it mean he's protecting himself emotionally? or he doesn't like the girl? cause he told me. he rrally likes the girl so im confused.

 

He is protecting himself emotionally and is fully aware of that, which is unusual and he is being very honest and open. He is telling you he is "emotionally unavailable". Any girl who is looking for a relationship for herself, should back away from him. He will date women because he needs companionshiip/sex, but won't invest himself in a relationship.

 

Sometimes men will say they are afraid of a relationship and think they are "emotionally unavailable" and say something like "I don't know what I want". But if you observe those men, you will find that they are very giving of their time to activities, very close to their families, share things on an emotional level, etc. That says they really aren't emotionally unavailable, they just need time to evaluate new relationships and move slowly. It doesn't sound like this guy is about that.

 

This man needs to get past his past in order to have a fulfilling relationship, if he even hopes to have one.

[d0nnivain]

he's explaining why he has trust issues. Somebody hurt him deeply in the past & he's afraid.

[fallenheart]

Maybe he just wants to bang her but also is keeping her at an arm's length so when he's tired of her he has a nice established excuse already handy to make a quick exit, guilt-free?

 

I've used that line before, and I wasn't the first guy and I won't be the last guy.

[Emilia]

Could be just a line as the above poster said. It could be also that he genuinely can't open up, seen that before too. Those men blame women but in fact it's something in them that chases everyone away. It's easier to blame others than to face your own issues and actually make an attempt to fix them.

 

Either way, a no go.

[Heatemyheart89]

Sounds like a no go. If you really like someone , you will try & overcome your issues for them.