What's the biggest mistake you ever did while in a relationship?

[CurlyIam]

Ever did someone you love serious harm? Can you think of a reason? Did you manage to make it right? Did you manage to save that relationship?

 

I've read a post today that brought back not so old memories. Someone who did me wrong. That person told me over and over again that I was ruthless and proud... because I could not forgive. So I'd like to know if there were cases where you or your partner did something wrong... and how it worked out (some emotional crisis management, LOL)

 

I have avoided to talk or even think about that, as I was afraid I might give in. I guess the curiosity killed the cat this time also.

 

Hope you won't be too shy in exposing your flaws... he he!

[Naive]

Did I ever?

 

Once while my bf/h and I had broken up we hooked up while broken up after he came back from vacation, I was already with someone else and he knew it. Well, we got together and started doing the dirty when out of stupidity I said my bf's (at that time) name on purpose. His heart was broken. I felt so bad after that and to make things worse I admitted to him that I did that on purpose.

 

I have done so many f*cked up sh*t in the past to him but we are still together after all that. I have to admit though, when I think back I feel so bad.

[ttjames]

I had a two day infatuation with a girl in Europe.. Nothing happened but we just got along really well..

 

Also during that time I was keeping a journal about my adventures in europe.... Sooooo about 6 months later my girlfriend finds my journal and flips out.... We didn't break up but it broke her heart.. and I felt really really bad.

 

Note to self! Don't write stuff like that down! Stupid stupid..

[flower]

Not being as tight money fisted as my ex was my mistake! At the end of the relationship, I had lost out a lot on money and frustrated with a stingy man! Learnt a bitter lesson.

[Dreamgirl03]

When my fiance and I first started dating, i was sleeping around with other guys..in fact i had slept with like 4 guys i think in like 4 months of dating him, and he knew it. But despite all that, we are still together..i apologzed to him for everything i had done and stopped doing it.

[Kat]

hit back

[Donut]

I kept forgiving a partner who was a serial cheater and abuser, so my mistake was keep forgiving and wasting so much time staying with him (5 years).

 

After about five or six times of breaking up and getting back together I came to my senses, got out of the relationship and never looked back.

[LucreziaBorgia]

I didn't leave any windows, doors, or emergency exits in the relationship I had. When it was time for M. to move on, he had to rip the infrastructure out in order to escape. I made my relationship a needy, insecure trap. My heart was like a tightly closed fist around him and he had to struggle to get out of it. Monogamy was a demand, not a gift - and my jealousy kept a watchful eye over things that didn't need to be watched over. I needed him to be not himself, but who I wanted him to be in order to be "happy." The breakup was horrible, and the emotional fallout kept me down for long afterward.

 

I love with an open palm heart now, and found that people much prefer to sit quietly and contentedly on an open palm rather than have the life choked out of them with a closed fist heart. Monogamy is a gift we give each other - a choice, rather than a demand. Our strength lies in our ability to let the other person be fully who they are - fully human with human needs and foibles, and not just demand that they be who they are in the context of this relationship in order to be "happy".

[RoxStar]

I lost my self in my relationship of 10 years. I completely forgot who I was. When he and I broke up 4 years ago my mom said to me that I hadnt been the bubbly happy person I was before I met him. I stayed way too long because I thought I needed him and for a while I identified my self worth with being his girlfriend.

 

He was very manipulative and I am very insecure and he played on those insecurities. He cheated and I was the one that felt guilty. It took me a very long time to accept that it wasnt my fault he cheated. He came from a long line of cheaters no less. He dad cheated on his mom all the time. I finally got the courage up to leave even though he wanted me to stay as I confronted the cheating for the last time. That was my biggest relationship mistake.

[EC]

My first love hurt me so bad and I will never forget it. Now this happened years ago. He was my first bf ever and I had just recently lost my virginity to him. We were in NJROTC in school together. Well we were bf/gf for about 3 months when he had to move an 2 hours away from me. Now we were both 15 and had no cars, so imagine how I felt, the 'love of my life' far away and I was devastated! So whatever we talked every night and I told him what was going on at school and we talked about dumb things. Well after a while things turned sour. Our conversations were dull, I hadn't seen him in two months, he had started a new highschool so I felt he was forgetting about me. Well the military ball in my high school for NJROTC was coming up and that was a huge deal. Me and me guy had been looking forward to it forever!!! So I asked if he has made arrangement to be driven down to go to the ball with me. He said of course he wouldn't miss it for the world.

So I baby sat for like three weeks and saved enough money for the tickets and the perfect dress. It was a Cinderella dress as I called it and I would try it on everyday after school and I couldn't wait for him to see me in it.

So the day before the ball he calls and says he cannot go because its his parents anniversary and his stepmother needed him to babysit for her. I was devastated!! But I said ok and after crying forever the next day I got all dolled up and went alone. Everyone said I looked beautiful and then asked where he was. The whole night I was stuck saying he couldnt make it. I had fun but I was wishing he was there the whole time.

 

The next morning his step mother calls and asks to speak to him. I'm like hes not here? She said what are you talking about I dropped him off last night to go with you to your ball!!

 

ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh....My first heart break!

 

Turns out he was telling me he had to babysit, and he was telling his step mom that he couldnt babysit because he had to go with me that he promised me and it would crush me if he didnt go....and guess what he ended up doing??? Having his step mom drop him off in front of my house, to meet up with old friends who then picked him up and took him away from the weekend, they were going to drop him back off at my house and he would leave with his step mom again and I would never have noticed. The next day I had to break up with him because I was so hurt but it was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. Tell my love goodbye. It was heart wrentching.

The next day he never called me, even though I left him my stupid self still expected a call. It never came. The breakup meant didly squat to him. and that killed me even worse. It was horrible.

 

So yeah thats my story..thats why EC is all messed up in the brain and heart area now.

[IhavenoFREAKINclue]

When i was with my ex, his dog died. Now this was no regular dog. I mean he got dinner cooked for him every night. I'm not one for death and i don't really know how to deal with it, so when he died, his family was in shambles. I felt awkward, so instead of being the for my BF, i left b/c of the weird tension. I know I'm cold hearted. But i figured they can comfort each other. Up until the day we broke up he never let me forget that.

[Mz. Pixie]

Cheating once, getting caught.

[Soulfully]

I love with an open palm heart now, and found that people much prefer to sit quietly and contentedly on an open palm rather than have the life choked out of them with a closed fist heart. Monogamy is a gift we give each other - a choice, rather than a demand. Our strength lies in our ability to let the other person be fully who they are - fully human with human needs and foibles, and not just demand that they be who they are in the context of this relationship in order to be "happy".

 

Beautiful wise comment there.

 

Hope there aint no copyright rules here, since I'm putting that one in the beautiful quotes section if allowed obviously... and Lucrezia Borgia will be quoted for sure

 

Similar mistake to Lucrezia's. & even though I've been single since, the above expresses exactly what i've learnt and probably still learning.

 

Peace.

[Naive]

I fell in love.

[Merin]

I've made so many mistakes it's sad..

 

The one I regret the most however was in finding faith and belief for someone I KNEW was lying to me.. I didn't feel strong enough to let him go so instead I beat myself over his actions, took all the blame for things and ended up a distraught person in the end..

 

I ended the relationship much later than I should've.. it's time I'll never get back.