Themanwithaplan Posted January 12, 2015 Posted January 12, 2015 I met a girl in October who I really hit it off with. She was on vacation from her home 2 states away. I knew it wasn't the best idea to get involved because long distance relationships present several challenges. I ended up visiting her in her home state 2 weeks after she went home. It's been two months since I've seen her, but I'm flying out again tomorrow. I'm really excited, but I feel slightly apprehensive at the same time because she's been really lame about answering her phone the few times I have called or texted. She makes up elaborate excuses that seem unbelievable(i.e. her phone only functions correctly when plugged in). I would think if someone wants you to visit them for a week, they would want to have more of a open dialogue. I wanna ask her if she's involved with anyone else, because that would definitely play a role in me deciding if I want to invest more time in her. But if she's not, I realize that would make me look like a total baby.... We don't use condoms, so if I start suddenly, that's gonna seem really weird right? The last thing I want is to end up with a STD because I'm expecting someone to be forthcoming.
Satu Posted January 12, 2015 Posted January 12, 2015 Ask, but don't make it sound like an accusation. 1
Danda Posted January 12, 2015 Posted January 12, 2015 If you're having bareback sex with someone that you can't even ask (let alone already know) if they are sleeping with other people, then you are already in dangerous waters here. If you don't want STDs then you don't **** bareback with people who are only a notch or two above stranger status, which from the sounds of it is where you two are at if you hardly talk much when apart, and are far apart. You're like a long distance booty call, from what all I can gather form your post. At best maybe this is a legit FWB thing if you two at least do have some friendly conversations on the regular, but that still definitely doesn't mean she's not seeing or sleeping with anyone else. It's also sorta odd that she is chill having bareback sex with you considering she has no idea if you're sleeping with other women back in your own state. I mean be real for a moment here, you met her and basically got right down ****ing without really dating each other or forming an actual relationship. This likely wasn't an emotional sort of thing. More like having fun with someone you barely even know who seems cool and is attractive. Then two months go by and she gives weird excuses for not talking with you very much. Sorry OP but that's likely because you're a **** buddy, not a boyfriend candidate. Now you seem welcomed to come stay a week and romp around some more. If you want that, cool, have a blast. But you should probably wear a condom and probably not expect a serious relationship. 5
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