sun5hine84 Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 Ok so here it is.... Mat a guy on line.... Chatted loads, swapped numbers, he would text me a lovely 'good morning beautiful' message most days, we spoke everyday. We arranged to meet, be bought me a beautiful bunch of flowers, treated me to a three course meal, we chatted and got on well. We asked me on a 2nd date during the meal... I said yes. He walked me to my car, went to kiss me but i just kissed him on the cheek, hugged him and thanked him for a lovely evening. He text when he got home telling me he got home, Hey gorgeous, im home. Lovely to meet you. I said thank you for a lovely evening and he replied my pleasure im looking forward to doing it again very soon. He then messaged the next day saying morning gorgeous, we got chatting and i said let me know some dates your free dor our second date, he said he will. But since then, he hasnt messaged me! Ive messaged him first on two consecutive days and hes chatted back to me fine. But today is the first day none of us have started the conversation and i haven had my usual 'good morning beautiful message since the day after our date. (Thursday and its Sunday today) Hes been on line (whats app) but hasnt contacted me, he used to comment every time i changed my pic on there, ive changed it twice and nothing Should i be worried? Has he gone off me??
losangelena Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 This just goes back to how important it is to keep pre-meeting communication to a minimum. Topic after topic I read about women (or men) who get so wrapped up in someone they meet off OLD, messaging and texting and calling so much before they meet in person, and building so much expectation of each other before having any idea if they're a good match in real life. It sounds very much like you were acting like a couple while being complete strangers. "Good morning beautiful" texts every day? My boyfriend of four months doesn't even do that! For a first date to involve a three-course meal and flowers is too much. To me that says he was feeding off the fantasy of meeting you and having a girlfriend. The problem comes when you meet in real life and the reality doesn't match the fantasy (that's not a dig against you—the two never match up!). Give it a couple more days. What he's doing sucks and is unfortunate, but it happens. You didn't do anything wrong. But in the future, be wary of any man who declares so much up front—it's not real. Keep your head on straight until your first date, when you can gauge genuine interest. Before then, he's a stranger—treat him as such. 3
Author sun5hine84 Posted January 11, 2015 Author Posted January 11, 2015 I forgot to mention.... we have arranged date number 2 for Thursday (just the date no time or venue) But it would still be nice to hear from him.... Do u think he doesnt find me as girlfriend material then?
losangelena Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 I think you're getting ahead of yourself. There's really no way to tell at this point. The better question is do you think he's boyfriend material? Go on your second date and see how it goes. 1
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