Atticus9292012 Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 I decided to try online dating again. So far it's going well. I have gotten a lot of traffic and have been talking to some nice guys. I need some help on how to weed people out. I went on two dates and I like both of the guys. Honestly I didn't feel a huge attraction to them, but I do want to get to know them better. I am talking to a few others I like too. Before it was easier to weed people out. They either didn't look like their pictures or got inappropriate, etc. I guess how long is appropriate to go out with someone before making a decision if on the fence?
Danda Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 IMHO if you are on the fence from date one then it is better to gracefully move on. The reality of OLD for women is that we typically have a lot more options, so there is no point in leading a guy on if you're not really that into him. He has a lot more work and time ahead of him to secure more dates, so it's unfair to waste his time. 1
mysteryscape Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 I'd say why waste their time and yours, given what you said. I'd at least tell them where they stand if either of them contacts you again. It's not just women who find a surfeit of basically uninteresting action. Against my better judgment, I recently decided out of curiosity to try the dreaded (by me) "multidating." Four this weekend including a breakfast Monday morning! So far, just a mildly pleasant time and a lot of work. No magic! I did meet someone in real life last night (at a party, after my date lol!) with musical interests similar to mine, we're going someplace next Saturday (and maybe Sunday as well). She seems more intriguing than the other four put together. Don't ask me where I get the energy for all this, I don't lol! All of this activity seems less alarming than I thought it would be, but also even more pointless. I think I will soon enjoy my usual alone time again a lot more.
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