nyny123 Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 I'm 26 and single. I tried online dating but it never worked out ever since I was 19 when I first started it. I'm done with online dating for good and I think it's probably not for me.
Satu Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 Expand your social circle. Make some new friends of both sexes. It's much easier to meet someone if you have a larger social circle. 1
doeblin Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 Do you have a hobby? If not, get one. Even solitary hobbies (like reading) have some social events related to them (poetry readings, festivals whatnot). Or you can go rock climbing... whatever floats your boat. Visit those events. Make friends. 2
London_girl_1985 Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 Tinder. Seriously. I met my BF on there. 3 of my friends met theirs on their too. Give it a go! 1
Danda Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 I think meeting potential mates as a woman can often be a frustrating waiting game, since we are typically expected to just 'present' ourselves, give potential mates 'openings' but then still ultimately wait to be pursued. A woman can doll up and get herself out there and wind up feeling passively rejected for hours, over and over again. Making it even more complicated is that many times there will be guys who are interested but will be too afraid to approach or pursue you. (Just make sure you have your green light skills down pat.) So because of all of this, it's best not to have meeting a guy as your primary objective, because then you won't enjoy very much of what would otherwise be enjoyable experiences. I agree that it's best to just keep getting yourself out there with hobbies, events and so on, go out with friends as well as flying solo sometimes, and go out to genuinely enjoy whatever it is you're doing. That way if it takes a while to meet a guy, you're still having a good time regardless. Being approachable is also super important. Remember that for a lot of guys, approaching a woman, let alone flirting with her, can be terrifying. So you wanna make sure that you give off friendly, social vibes. 2
coolheadal Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 Online dating can work if you do your homework. Be honest and narrow done who you want to be with. No games, no lies, just be honest. Also if you find a few online you like. 1. Text and email them. 2. Do a phone call screening. 3. Get on SKYPE and talk in person. 4. Arrange a Date If you last more than 1 hour on the phone then move to SKYPE. If you two can talk on SKYPE for more than 2 hrs, 3 hrs, 4 hrs even 5 hrs. Then you might have a good chance to set time for a date in person. Need to use real photo of your face not cartoons, or pictures of when you were younger. You started online dating since you where 19 and still can't find someone even at age 26. Those out in the real world are the same ones online. Unless you get lucky and meet the right person in person? Meeting someone in person is hard for lot of people to do. That's why they turned to online dating. Some get married, have kids and have nice life. Others run into issues, lies past lives all sorts of disorders show up. Most leave those relationships.
Versacehottie Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 (edited) Along with all of the answers above which are all good tactics, you have to prime yourself to always be in a "ready" state. Not "ready" desperate but "ready" as if anything can happen anywhere anytime. Get an open mind mindset. Keep your eyes open and make sure that you look and feel good wherever you are, all day long--not just during the times you go out where you think guys will be. The truth is they are out there all over the place; they do the same things you do, cheap neighborhood restaurants, take out, gym, park, bank, errands, go to work. Eye contact, smile and say hi. Just if you get yourself into this open state, things happen. And I cannot stress enough, looking your best appropriate for the situation (like cute, sexy gym clothes rather than sloppy ones). I people watch all the time and see cute girls who are dressed sloppy and kinda gross grooming miss opportunities with cute guys all the time because they've just popped out to the bank looking bad. Big mistake. I watch guys eyes to see who they are looking at and those are not the ones--even though they are probably prettier than whoever they are looking at. Guys like feminine--it's what makes us different. The single girls I know often mess up by looking bad and/or not trying to seize opportunities during the day and wait for nights out or special events like parties where they think cute guys will be. They end up putting too much pressure on those specific moments rather than putting into practice and building your own confidence by doing it all the time. Plus there's more competition from other girls at those things and for example if you hedge all your bets on nightclub nights, well then you only reach a segment of the type of guys that go to nightclubs and miss the other types. Also have hobbies and interests and events that you like. That keeps you interesting and on the move. Far more compelling to a guy when you do meet them. It doesn't even matter if the hobby, for example, is what brings you to the guy but it will make you more interesting than a girl who is just waiting to snag a bf. You don't just want to meet a guy you want to date and keep him if he's worthy, right? Think of it like this: be the type of person you want to attract. Lastly, as you circle of friends and acquaintances expands your opportunities for being set up or meeting a friend of a friend are higher. Actually most of the people I know met their boyfriends or girlfriends this way. It's like networking but instead of for business, it's social. ps i think tinder is best idea of the online stuff. you should pursue it because if you want a bf, you should explore a lot of avenues and I think this is easiest and just simple with low level of involvement and you don't have to take so seriously. You can do it, good luck! Edited January 11, 2015 by Versacehottie 1
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