regine_phalange Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 these pictures of me are a couple of days before the snow and he saw them but only commented nice stuff, but the snow pictures dont show much difference to me https://www.flickr.com/photos/127355507@N05/ https://www.flickr.com/photos/127355507@N05/15642825904/ https://www.flickr.com/photos/127355507@N05/16077716468/ You are my body shape twin And you are NOT FAT! 2
TigerLilly78 Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 I don't know why guys don't understand that winter make us all look fatter than how we really are! It sounds like hes a Aussie I could be wrong but from her posts I think he is if so the closest thing they come to snow is prob a ice cream cone on the beach hes just got unrealistic selfish expectations imo..
Heatemyheart89 Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 Well you weigh less than me and we are the same height .I think my boyfriend thinks I'm far too ! Fitness addicts tend to be a bit more critical . Do you want to tone up / lose weight ? If not let this pass & next time you see something wrong with him , don't hold back
Author Lona.loba Posted January 13, 2015 Author Posted January 13, 2015 Since the photos don't show your lower half they are worthless for this discussion. The one full length one was dark and you were wearing baggy trousers. Why not post the photo he actually commented on? General advice for anyone insecure about being overweight: Don't date a guy into health and fitness. There are plenty of couch potatoes who won't notice nor care if you gain fifty pounds. I know when I am a few pounds overweight and don't need someone to tell me. However, if my man mentioned it, it would just spur me on to losing it sooner rather than later, which is a good thing. I think most men fear their attractive girlfriends and wives gaining weight. Not unusual. but im not at all overweight
Author Lona.loba Posted January 13, 2015 Author Posted January 13, 2015 Op seriously just from those pics you don't need to work out alot if you want to do some running or light carido to maintain your size then great but please dont try to hit the gym to hard and start losing more then you really need to you look healthy to me. In a way its good you have seen the affects of eating disorders 1st hand so you won't slip down that slope. Also I noticed you saying this is a very long distance relashionship it seams? those are hard even on older people! I know you love your bf but unless you guys have a plan in place to get togher in the near future for good you might want to reconsider that LDRs bring a lot of stress at the best of times and I can't help but wonder if some of this is due to that.. okkk.... no it used to be long distance but now its not, i live with him in the same house now in australia
Author Lona.loba Posted January 13, 2015 Author Posted January 13, 2015 I don't know why guys don't understand that winter make us all look fatter than how we really are! exactly !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! thats my point
Author Lona.loba Posted January 13, 2015 Author Posted January 13, 2015 I would dump him. why??????????????????????????????????????????????????
Author Lona.loba Posted January 13, 2015 Author Posted January 13, 2015 It sounds like hes a Aussie I could be wrong but from her posts I think he is if so the closest thing they come to snow is prob a ice cream cone on the beach hes just got unrealistic selfish expectations imo.. no hes originally serbian European and he has encountered snow before he came to australia and moved there. he moved there when he was 13
CarrieT Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 why?????????????????????????????????????????????????? Because he is making judgmental statements about your body; telling you to work out more, when it is HIS issue. He is trying to control you and make you feel bad about yourself when there are NO reasons you should feel remotely self-conscious. It is manipulative and thoughtless tactics on his part and if you buy into "his" vision of you, you are giving away your self-entitlement.
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