fred123 Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 when a guy or a girl declares interest in the person they like or chatting to or dating, is it then that persons duty to either a) make the next move or b) be honest and not lead them on. question to the females on here: if you know a guy likes you and he has made it obvious is it wise to keep interacting with him? what do you girls do? do you like it when a guy is direct and obvious in his ways to show you he is interested?
Scaatys2014 Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 Well, funny you should ask this question because I had an amazing date and wonder what the guy thinks. As a woman, if you are interested, call her! as women we are told to let the guy do the chasing, otherwise we come off as some kind of crazy. If you're interested, spare us the delay in communication. make it obvious so we know where we stand.
Danda Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 when a guy or a girl declares interest in the person they like or chatting to or dating, is it then that persons duty to either a) make the next move or b) be honest and not lead them on. When Person A declares interest, then Person B should respond in some way, yeah, out of courtesy. But not everyone has superb social skills, and some people get a lot of anxiety (for various reasons) about turning someone down. So always take a non-response or silence as a "not interested" message. What you consider to qualify as a "next move" could be different from what someone else would say qualifies, though. As usual context is important. If you simply say, "I'd like to go out for coffee with you sometime," for example, then her saying, "I'd like that," qualifies as a "next move" to many women. If you sit back and wait for her to invite you out to coffee then that could be a pitfall. Women typically flirt by giving guy's openings, encouragement, green lights, etc, preferably mixed in with a pinch of flattery. But we're much less likely to actually ask you out on a date, since we don't want you freakin out that we're too intense, masculine, desperate, whatever. question to the females on here: if you know a guy likes you and he has made it obvious is it wise to keep interacting with him? what do you girls do? That depends entirely on whether or not I have any square one interest, plus whether or not I am available for dating. If both answers are yes, then of course I'd keep interacting with him. Again though, context. If all he did was walk up and say "hello, how's your day", "good, yours", "okay" - and then walks away, then I'm not going to start following him around and asking him personal questions. I'd need him to come back and make it a little more clear than that, like chat me up more, get my number and contact me. So when you say "obvious" gotta realize that it's a subjective word. I've seen several examples on forums and in real life of people believing they "obviously" had a thing for someone when really it wasn't all that obvious. do you like it when a guy is direct and obvious in his ways to show you he is interested? If it's respectful and not out of left field, then yes. I wouldn't enjoy being approached by a total stranger who doesn't chat with me for even 5 minutes before asking me out on a date. I'd probably leans towards caution and say no thanks, even if he was a cute guy. If he already has invested a bit of time in getting to know me a bit and decides he's interested, then being forward is something I would find flattering and admittedly a turn on, if I was mutually interested. There is also a difference between playfully and respectfully forward, and just plain pushy and scary.
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