Inviv_girl Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 Hi all, thank you so much for your time reading this. And thank so much for advice given, I really appreciate. Two weeks ago I met a guy on my holiday trip, he was also there for holiday, we had a great time together in a bar and we had sex. At first I thought it was just random one time thing because we both strangers- first met first sex and we are on holiday! but after we went back to our own country since then he contacted me everyday, we chat and talk for hours. He calls everyday and we talk about everything, give me update of what he do and he wants to know hows my daily life. I'm confused, I have had bad experience in long distance relationship with my ex- 3 years ago and it crushed me when we broke up. He was my first and the only serious relationship I had. A year ago I dated a guy for 6 months and he dumped me because he had to leave the country for a new job. I try to avoid LDR since then and then I dated a guy in my area for few months but I have no love feeling to him, the more I spend time with him the more I realize I dont love him so I decided to not go further and ended the contact, and I try to go on a date with some other guy but my feeling also the same! No love feeling-no butterfly in my stomach-etc! So I decided to not seeing anybody.. and then come along this random guy that appear during my vacation in another country. Please don't judge me for being so cheap having sex with someone I just met in the bar on holiday. This is my first time with stranger and the contact continue, normally guys just left after they had sex with random girl esp the one they met during holiday. But this guy is different, he contact me everyday and somehow when we chat or talk I really feel the connection, I can feel he is into me and he told me he like me a lot! with this routine we do everyday somehow I started to have feeling for this guy, and I'm so afraid if I fall in love with him and at the end it wont work because of the distance! I feel happy when I talk with him, he feels the same.. we have connection and develop something good and feeling like this is not easy to get! my heart racing of excitement when we chat or talk whenever but at the back of my mind I feel scared- scared looking back at my previous failed relationship and so afraid it might happened again I got hurt! 11,000 km away will that kind of relationship work?? regarding I had the same distance experience and it doesnt work I do not know what to do, I like this guy and he is so into me but should I end this or should I pursue this? Please help!
Frank2thepoint Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 Sounds like you subconsciously enjoy LDR because they seem to offer excitement for you. The men you dated in your area didn't really excite you, because they were too available. There is a certain adventure involved with an LDR, because there is a lot of uncertainty, you can't really see the person that often, and you get to travel. A LDR can work if both members are willing to put the effort into it, but the same things that excite you about the LDR, also stress you out. Don't let past relationships dictate what you should do. You should use them as a guideline. I suggest talk to guy about this, and see where he stands, and what he is willing to do to make it work. The rest is about trust. 1
Author Inviv_girl Posted January 11, 2015 Author Posted January 11, 2015 Thank's for your reply, I will try to talk to him about it. My prev relationship was different story, we were together in the same area before but part cuz of the job offer thats why we have to do LDR. This case is different..
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