Manda Posted March 28, 2005 Posted March 28, 2005 Hello, I am new to the love shack. Need some advice... I have been dating this guy for 3.5 years. We don't have a lot of things in common, but we have such strong feelings for each other that we just do our own thing...(we have nothing to do together). That bothers me!! I am more active than he is, and I am also considerably more social. For example, it was my 21st bday recently and he didn't want to come visit because he doesn't want to meet my friends.. (shy guy). We are in a LDR and we are high school sweethearts. Our colleges are a little over an hour apart driving time. For the past year, occasionally I will think about breaking up with him. I love him so much, but I am afraid if marriage is in our future that I will be bored because we don't do anything exciting now. I am rather unsure if we belong together, but in the same hand, I love him so much. How am I supposed to break up with someone that I love so much, but are not sure if we belong together? I find myself attracted to other guys frequently, and it's not just a physical attraction. I find myself thinking of them outside of class/work or wondering what it would be like to be their gf. I always feel guilty, and I wish things would just be decided for me...I'm sick of thinking about this stuff! Help! ~Manda
alwayswondering Posted March 28, 2005 Posted March 28, 2005 Hi, I was in a very similar situation when I was 21, I am 29 now. Well, before I could decide anything, I foundout he had cheated so that was my big break. It was hard but I don't regret a thing today. If you stay with him and get married, you are always gonna wonder, and wondering is not a good thing, believe me. You have been with him a long time and need to experience other new things and people. You can always just take a "moni-break" and see how things go. If you are dying without him, ya'l can always try to go back to the way things were. It kinda throws up a red flag that ya'll don't so anything together now, because marriage ain't gonna change that, if anything it would be worse, and also the fact that he was unwilling to come infor your b-day because he is "shy" whatever, lol, sounds like he needs to grow up big time. But jus tthink it throug and maybe talk to him about it, you never know, he might be feeling the same way too. Good luck !
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