ThisisIt606 Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 So I need some advice with interpreting this text. I met a guy off tinder last night for dinner. The date was going well so we decided to get drinks after. We realized we lived in the same area ( apartments next door to each other, about a 3 min walk). We did get a little tipsy but that just resulted in rapid talking/lots of talking about all sorts of things. Convo did not get sexual (nor did we get physical) and we bounced around a lot of different topics while learning about each other. To give some background on him, he just moved to my city (country even) a few moths ago for a post-doc. English is the main language of the country he's from so there is no language barrier. He seemed very smart and nice on the date. Almost a bit boring... but he loosed up a bit more as the night went on and shared his interests with me as opposed to just "hanging out" when I asked him what he liked to do for fun. He mentioned he like rock climbing, yoga, etc and has some friends in the area so I'm glad he has activities/ things that he enjoys. He walked me home and I gave him a hug goodbye, thanked him and said I had fun and it would be nice to do it again sometime. He agreed and said "yeah, especially since we're so close" as we were saying our goodbyes he kinda stood just stood there. I wasn't sure what he was expecting (a kiss?) but I wasn't feeling it/didn't want to do it. So I just thanked him again and went inside after the hug. He texted me the following day saying: HIM: Was nice meeting you (name) Enjoy dance today. Hope to see you again soon. ME: Nice meeting you too thnx, looking forward to dance! Yeah that sounds good. You mentioned your snowboard trip was next fri? HIM:Yes exactly. So we could aim for something tame on Tues/Wed night, otherwise the following week. ME: Phew just got out of class, hard but fun! Wednesday works well for me. ME: Thoughts on what you wanna do? I'll think of something too. HIM: Sounds good. Pretty open minded I guess but preferably something in our area So the and staying close to our places throws me off..... It is VERY cold where we live (but he didn't seem to mind walking when we went out the night before instead of taking public transit) so I guess that could be why he wants to stay close by. Is he just being lazy/innocent or hoping to "get some"? From the impression that I got of him the first night he seemed like a nice, respectful guy but i know a lot of guy can do a number of things just in hopes of getting action.
Danda Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 I don't personally see any red flags in the story. Bear in mind that after a first date when a guy is walking you to your door, it can be pretty suspenseful for them. They have about 30 seconds tops while walking you to the door to try to gauge if you want a kiss or not, and usually they know that if they don't go for it when you want one, you might take it the wrong way, and if they do go for it when you don't want one, then it could kill their chances of a second date. So chances are he wasn't thinking too hard about what he was saying, but rather chances are he was just saying something while standing there trying to gauge if he should try to kiss you or not. 1
katlover Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 He probably wants sex yea. He was drunk that night, and when you are drunk you have the desire to have sex even more. So when he stood there saying your goodbyes, he was actually waiting for you to invite him up because he knew you were drunk too and perhaps thought you would feel like having sex too. Don't look at it in a bad way though, men just have more testosterone than woman, which makes them think about sex all the time. Really hard to tell though after just one date.. You should spend some more time together and see what his intentions are.
bdhouston Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 I think you're reading too much into it. He probably does want to sleep with you, but it doesn't seem to be a big priority based on what you've written. If that was the case, he would've definitely brought up something sexual as the night went on, especially if he was tipsy. He may have just enjoyed his evening with you, and didn't want to see it end.
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