Shepp Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 Not a fan of piercings at all except ears on girls. Heavy piercing could definitely be a turn off for me. I like tattoos, I have a few, my wife has a few but, for me, tattoos have to have a meaning, and I'm not a fan of heavy tattooing, a fews grand but big tattoos and sleeves and the like on women is not really my thing. Depends on the tattoo though - some look wicked and are dead sexy, others not so much.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 But my question is - Are tattoos are piercings really that much of a turn off to some people? Would you refuse to continue dating someone because of their body art? (Men and Woman of all ages would be great to get an answer!) Would I "refuse"? - no, not for that reason. However, prominent tattoos and prominent piercings are more significant as determining factors about someone's character back when you're just guessing, and before somebody is your coworker, neighbor, hairdresser, barista, etc. for some amount of time. That is to say that, when perusing dating sites, when you don't have much on which to gauge somebody's character, prominent body art can seem like something to be avoided, as there is most typically considerable drama in their lives. Once you know someone as your barista, who you see 5 days a week, you have much more to go on than her multitude of prominent body art. So it does make sense that those merely wanting to winnow down the candidates in a crowded bar, or on a dating website, might indeed factor-in prominent body art when so doing. Now on the other side of that coin, it is quite probable that those who themselves have had to deal with drama during much of their lives, might be better equipped to mate with another such person. It is a public means by which to indicate to others who might, and might not be best suited for mating, and even friendship. There's a reason why, 40 years ago, most of the people with visible tattoos were sailors who spent months and years at sea and away from their families. Now of course they like to say "... but everybody has drama in their lives" - when ill-equipped to make such an observation, for having known only a life with considerable drama attached. And of course they like to see it as tangent to recognizable (and often illegal) discrimination when it is no such thing. It is one thing to randomly be grouped and judged by religious background, or by skin tone, but quite another when you are effectively grouped by choices you made. The drunk down on skid row - he chose the alcohol that put him there. And yes, addiction is genetic, but knowing this, he still chose that very first drink way back when (age 9, perhaps) that put him on the path he knows today. Speaking of alcoholism, there's a reason why the 12-stepping, and the sponsor thing work so uniquely... and indeed maybe it is true that the best person to guide you is somebody who has been there. It is along those lines that today's heavy lean toward prominent body art lets a lot of people who might mesh best with certain people, find one another as do the last two Cheerios in the bowl.
ComingInHot Posted January 12, 2015 Posted January 12, 2015 So are bumper stickers, but I wouldn't litter a Mercedes- Benz with them though. lol I understand your point and I have only ever dated 1 young man who got his tattoo with his brothers who came home after their tour in the armed forces. It was a really big deal for him. But that's the most experience I have... I just remember having a respect for him so it didn't bother me 1
ComingInHot Posted January 12, 2015 Posted January 12, 2015 Yep, while not a man obviously my sister got one in one of those spots. Every time she visited me at Uni I got her a piercing somewhere. Ears, belly button and ummmm... I forgot, I believe nipples. Or was it eyebrows? Sigh, uni is hazy to me . I do remember almost giving my mother a heart attack every time she came back home. Whahahaha, those phone calls were too funny. The one spot I refused to buy/take her was in the you know what. She actually went with a girlfriend for that one. I do wonder if it enhances anything for the man (or his partner) if he gets one there? So do tell! Really?! . Okay, so I have a few friends who have 'experience' with their b/f's piercings and from what they have told me... sheesh... that a tongue ring can be amazing when used, uhmmm, below the waist, then the piercings on the man's shaft is supposed to well, it's supposed to.. Ah! Ya'll can figure it out. But the last one I just can't imagine.
endlessabyss Posted January 12, 2015 Posted January 12, 2015 I essentially have sleeves on both arms. Let the haters hate. No problem with me; I find them sexy.
Gloria25 Posted January 12, 2015 Posted January 12, 2015 (edited) I like tattoos on a guy...to me its like a little "edginess" to him that's a turn on. Especially if he's smart and a gentleman - like me. I think a lot of people would be surprised at the ink I have cuz of my conservative image. I don't care for piercings on a guy. I don't like stretching on anyone. I don't like over the top tattoos. I also think people who tattoo in visible places (i.e. neck) are stupid. I mean, how can you hold a professional job and/or be taken seriously at your job with ink so visible. I try to have mine placed where I can cover them up. So, when I go to work, lots of scarfs, turtlenecks, etc. But, love when the summer rolls around and I can look cute in a tank-top and show them off. I have a nose ring and earrings, but I don't care for the eyebrow, tongue, and/or other places on the face other than the nose. I also do not wear my nose ring to work and/or professional settings. Oh, I also don't get nipple rings and/or penis or vagina piercings...that's just a little too weird for me. I also can't stand people who do piercings and/or tattoos to be "cool" when they are far from it. You can sorta tell those people. I don't care for people trying to be something they are not. What perplexes me is the idiots who tattoo wedding bands. I got involved with a guy who he and his wife had tattoos where their wedding bands were. Guess what? Like the thread I posted in yesterday about married guys leaving their wifeys? He also left his wife - so there you go...tattoo your wedding band all day...you are an idiot. I mean, if you have to tattoo your wedding band, then rather than a sign of commitment - it's a sign of something not right and/or controlling behavior...at the end of the day, you are an insecure and controlling idiot. Oh, and along with tattoos of wedding bands - don't get people who tattoo names of people they are dating and/or are married to. Edited January 12, 2015 by Gloria25 1
endlessabyss Posted January 12, 2015 Posted January 12, 2015 I like tattoos on a guy...to me its like a little "edginess" to him that's a turn on. Especially if he's smart and a gentleman - like me. I think a lot of people would be surprised at the ink I have cuz of my conservative image. I don't care for piercings on a guy. I don't like stretching on anyone. I don't like over the top tattoos. I also think people who tattoo in visible places (i.e. neck) are stupid. I mean, how can you hold a professional job and/or be taken seriously at your job with ink so visible. I try to have mine placed where I can cover them up. So, when I go to work, lots of scarfs, turtlenecks, etc. But, love when the summer rolls around and I can look cute in a tank-top and show them off. I have a nose ring and earrings, but I don't care for the eyebrow, tongue, and/or other places on the face other than the nose. I also do not wear my nose ring to work and/or professional settings. Oh, I also don't get nipple rings and/or penis or vagina piercings...that's just a little too weird for me. I also can't stand people who do piercings and/or tattoos to be "cool" when they are far from it. You can sorta tell those people. I don't care for people trying to be something they are not. What perplexes me is the idiots who tattoo wedding bands. I got involved with a guy who he and his wife had tattoos where their wedding bands were. Guess what? Like the thread I posted in yesterday about married guys leaving their wifeys? He also left his wife - so there you go...tattoo your wedding band all day...you are an idiot. I mean, if you have to tattoo your wedding band, then rather than a sign of commitment - it's a sign of something not right and/or controlling behavior...at the end of the day, you are an insecure and controlling idiot. Oh, and along with tattoos of wedding bands - don't get people who tattoo names of people they are dating and/or are married to. Always a quality post from you 1
MissBee Posted January 12, 2015 Posted January 12, 2015 (edited) A friend of mine recently went on a date with a girl he met online, she didn't want to see him again afterwards because the visible tattoos and piercings put her off (This may have been a 'get out easy' answer, but who knows). I personally like tattoos and piercing as long as they're not 'over the top'. By that I mean, hugely stretched ears, 100 facial piercings and face tattoos.. you get the point. I personally have visible piercings (Eyebrow, double helix and normal lobes - I also have my nipples pierced so in some situations are visible) I don't have any tattoos as of yet but will be getting my first one next month which in certain clothes would be visible. So it would be a bit hypocritical of me to turn down someone because of their body art. But my question is - Are tattoos are piercings really that much of a turn off to some people? Would you refuse to continue dating someone because of their body art? (Men and Woman of all ages would be great to get an answer!) Yes, some folks prefer a more conservative look or just don't like much body modification. Although it's not as stigmatized these days, for some there is still a stigma attached to tattoos and piercings (as you can see by some of the extreme reactions people in this thread have had calling it monstrosities and the rest). I'm of the mind that less is more. I don't mind tattoos but don't like a ton of them and with piercings I also don't really like them on men as much. Not even ear piercings. But it also depends on how the person pulls it off, as I've seen men pull off piercings and tattoos and thought it looked good, but in general I wouldn't say I'm generally attracted to that. I just wonder if this woman didn't see this man's picture before? Or maybe it looked worse to her in person. Edited January 12, 2015 by MissBee
ascendotum Posted January 12, 2015 Posted January 12, 2015 I like tattoos on a guy...to me its like a little "edginess" to him that's a turn on. Especially if he's smart and a gentleman - like me. I think a lot of people would be surprised at the ink I have cuz of my conservative image. I don't care for piercings on a guy. I don't like stretching on anyone. I don't like over the top tattoos. I also think people who tattoo in visible places (i.e. neck) are stupid. I mean, how can you hold a professional job and/or be taken seriously at your job with ink so visible. Its kind of faux edginess in a way though when it comes to tattoos that aren't generally visible. If a person really was a rebel they would be fine to show it. I know in your case you can see them when you wear a tank top, but quite a number of women I know who got them you would only know if they wore a bikini (and sometimes not even then). It was trendy not edgey really but I'm sure some of them would like to think they were when it came chatting up the edgy guys. I personally don't mind either way, unless I find the tattoos corny/cheap/lame. A big artistic one down the side of her body would not put me off anymore than some dinky little Chinese script near her hairline or in middle of her back. A nose piercing or eye brow piercing or belly button I don't mind, as long as its not a whole bunch. While some people with tatts might complain of some dating bias (I don't think its too big these days given its so mainstream now), it does go both ways. Many women with tatts/piercings favor edgey/bad boy type guys with tatts over their more conservative looking counterparts. I reckon 95% of the guys under 28 at my gym have fairly prominent tatts. I've seen a number of the young thin build sort of nerdy looking guys come in unadorned and then within a couple of yrs they put on a bit of bulk and get shoulder/chest/arm tatts and I don't doubt for a minute it doesn't boost their macho image transformation with the chicks. 1
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