Nickierose19 Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 I'm asking because I have a voice that is both heavy and light. I have heard that heavier voices are seen as more intimidating. Yet I feel like I am a bit annoying when my voice is high and when low it sounds kind of like a boy's Much of my family the women sound like men. My grandma has a voice about a bit deeper than lebron James' voice. I have an aunt that sounds like a man who is trying to sound lighter. I've heard several gay men who have similar voice types to her because she tries to lighten her voice and my cousin sounds just like my transgender roommate for the same reasons. I find this pretty negative and I try to avoid this. Plus my voice isn't that heavy it's about 190-200 on the he scale natural it goes a tad lower though sometimes to about 180. It goes lower usually when I'm flirting. I automatically go lower vocally when I'm approaching a guy im attracted to. I've never had a problem. Every now and then a comment that my voice is deep. Anyhow what I don't like is my voice sounding forced but Not almost male either. Opinions? 1
losangelena Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 I have a deep, not at all girly voice. I used to really be bothered by it; thought I sounded like a boy, but over the years have come to appreciated it. People have said it sounds interesting, and when I want/need/have to, I can wield it to command respect or get things done. I've never had a man tell me it was off-putting. 1
Author Nickierose19 Posted January 9, 2015 Author Posted January 9, 2015 I have a deep, not at all girly voice. I used to really be bothered by it; thought I sounded like a boy, but over the years have come to appreciated it. People have said it sounds interesting, and when I want/need/have to, I can wield it to command respect or get things done. I've never had a man tell me it was off-putting. I don't sound like a man quite. My voice is naturally a woman's but deep. I prefer to speak in the ch eat my head voice is very light and high I also sing in that voice. But using it to talk is weird to some people. I've had some girls say I have a very deep voice one said I cod sound similar to a transsexual once. Most of the time people just say I sound like a very young boy around the age of 11-12. But I'm getting older and my voice is getting heavier. I'm only 21. When I'm 40 I kind of wonder. But I do like my voice to make it sound very assertive that's the good side of it. 1
Danda Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 I think it depends on how you talk. If your voice goes lower when flirting then it's probably coming across as sultry, not manly. I don't think depth always translates into masculinity, there is another element at play, although I can't really articulate it. But I've heard women with deeper voices and they don't sound like men, and some men with higher voices than them don't sound like women, just men who don't have deep voices. My voice changes a LOT depending on how comfortable I am with someone. Not sure if my vocal cords tighten up or what but my voice tends to be really high pitched and a bit raspy even when I'm talking with a stranger, the more anxiety I have the worse it gets. On the total other end of the spectrum by the time I'm comfortable enough to be making out with someone or something, it can get much deeper and a smidge husky. And then everything in between. I've never had a guy point it out to me before, and in general it seems like guys have a tendency to blurt out insensitive **** without meaning to on a regular basis with women lol. So I figure if it was truly weird then some guy would have said so by now. Like I've had two guys notice that my left boob is slightly smaller than the right one and point it out with a curious expression, while 'demonstrating' for me with their hands that they can tell. So again, I figure if my voice was truly strange, I'd have been told by now. 1
preraph Posted January 10, 2015 Posted January 10, 2015 Remember that you do have some control over your voice. If you're really concerned it might be offputting, consider taking some speaking lessons like actors take. Exercises can help tone and just practicing. I should talk I sound like The Nanny except Oklahoma instead of Queens. The only time I've ever been complimented on my voice is in the morning when I'm hoarse 2
todreaminblue Posted January 10, 2015 Posted January 10, 2015 (edited) i have been told i have dulcet tones......i can go low or high....depends....i know it is instantly recognisable when i like a guy.....it is softer sweeter.....i cant really yell...when i do ...i have coughing spasms it hurts my throat..rips it out..when i sing i can hold a note but its light and breathy unless i am singing low and that it is really sort of two tonal..a toen that comes like a hum underneath from my throat........in a guy i guess i look for tone above all else.....there are certain tones i cant listen to for very long......i cant help it.....i have to go off in my head somewhere.....i couldnt stand commerce at school...because i couldnt listen.....the teacher had a tone that wasnt pleasant to me...often gave me whip lash.... .with guys.....a tone attracts me in the first place.....its a rare one...my ex a body builder had a tone that was unlike his physical presence....it was soft sweet ...actually arresting to me..commanding for me to listen to ....so pleasant.....i made him talk more which is often what i do when i love a voice.....make them talk more.....than what i do.....its in the chuckle too...a tone that carries.... i dont think to have a deep voice is bad at all for a woman or a man....having a harsh and grating voice a growl more or less...much less attractive..unless of course you are asked to growl...i prefer a purr.......deb..... Edited January 10, 2015 by todreaminblue 1
ascendotum Posted January 10, 2015 Posted January 10, 2015 A heavy voice for a woman could be seen as unattractive, maybe in terms of being less feminine, but its just one aspect of you, and if everything else doesn't lose you points in terms of your feminine allure then you should be fine. As someone else said it can come off as sultry when you are flirting. It can also come off boisterous, intimidating too. If you are doing well when it comes to guys (which I think you say when say you have no problem) then really I don't think you need to worry about sounding like your t-girl friend too much. On the flip side studies have shown women have definite preference for guys with deeper voices (more masculine) so guys with higher pitched voices (like a lot of jockeys) will have a harder time creating that sexual appeal in many women. 1
todreaminblue Posted January 10, 2015 Posted January 10, 2015 A heavy voice for a woman could be seen as unattractive, maybe in terms of being less feminine, but its just one aspect of you, and if everything else doesn't lose you points in terms of your feminine allure then you should be fine. As someone else said it can come off as sultry when you are flirting. It can also come off boisterous, intimidating too. If you are doing well when it comes to guys (which I think you say when say you have no problem) then really I don't think you need to worry about sounding like your t-girl friend too much. On the flip side studies have shown women have definite preference for guys with deeper voices (more masculine) so guys with higher pitched voices (like a lot of jockeys) will have a harder time creating that sexual appeal in many women. a lot of the singers who are male that i have fallen in love with their voice have a higher speaking voices...when they sing its angelic.......melodius...multi tonal..can go both ways...cello depths and harp highs...i love soft sweet guy voices.....and i like deep toned guy voices...i think its more maybe in what is said and how it is said that also counts with a voice.................deb 2
Author Nickierose19 Posted January 10, 2015 Author Posted January 10, 2015 I think it depends on how you talk. If your voice goes lower when flirting then it's probably coming across as sultry, not manly. I don't think depth always translates into masculinity, there is another element at play, although I can't really articulate it. But I've heard women with deeper voices and they don't sound like men, and some men with higher voices than them don't sound like women, just men who don't have deep voices. My voice changes a LOT depending on how comfortable I am with someone. Not sure if my vocal cords tighten up or what but my voice tends to be really high pitched and a bit raspy even when I'm talking with a stranger, the more anxiety I have the worse it gets. On the total other end of the spectrum by the time I'm comfortable enough to be making out with someone or something, it can get much deeper and a smidge husky. And then everything in between. I've never had a guy point it out to me before, and in general it seems like guys have a tendency to blurt out insensitive **** without meaning to on a regular basis with women lol. So I figure if it was truly weird then some guy would have said so by now. Like I've had two guys notice that my left boob is slightly smaller than the right one and point it out with a curious expression, while 'demonstrating' for me with their hands that they can tell. So again, I figure if my voice was truly strange, I'd have been told by now. My voice is like that but it goes deeper not really in an attractive way just deeper. It's more deeper in the chest. 2
ThaWholigan Posted January 10, 2015 Posted January 10, 2015 I do like a deep, feminine voice personally so not unattractive to me. I am audibly aroused by different types of women's voices but a slightly heavier tone does sound nice to me. 1
todreaminblue Posted January 10, 2015 Posted January 10, 2015 I think it depends on how you talk. If your voice goes lower when flirting then it's probably coming across as sultry, not manly. I don't think depth always translates into masculinity, there is another element at play, although I can't really articulate it. But I've heard women with deeper voices and they don't sound like men, and some men with higher voices than them don't sound like women, just men who don't have deep voices. My voice changes a LOT depending on how comfortable I am with someone. Not sure if my vocal cords tighten up or what but my voice tends to be really high pitched and a bit raspy even when I'm talking with a stranger, the more anxiety I have the worse it gets. On the total other end of the spectrum by the time I'm comfortable enough to be making out with someone or something, it can get much deeper and a smidge husky. And then everything in between. I've never had a guy point it out to me before, and in general it seems like guys have a tendency to blurt out insensitive **** without meaning to on a regular basis with women lol. So I figure if it was truly weird then some guy would have said so by now. Like I've had two guys notice that my left boob is slightly smaller than the right one and point it out with a curious expression, while 'demonstrating' for me with their hands that they can tell. So again, I figure if my voice was truly strange, I'd have been told by now. I have been told at a choir audition as a kid....my voice is unusual.to me that was an unusual statement to make.......my singing voice.......i would assume since i was picked and others werent who auditioned...my voice is not bad unusual......he asked me to sing to him quite a few times though different songs and other didnt......liek i had to prove myself....i dont know i got more anxious as another song was asked...or he asked me to scale again.i love singing...but his face was distracted while i was singing.....i dont like it when i listen back to my voice ...it makes me cringe a little..but i love to sing...as long as i dont have to listen to it.......deb 1
Danda Posted January 10, 2015 Posted January 10, 2015 A heavy voice for a woman could be seen as unattractive, maybe in terms of being less feminine, but its just one aspect of you, and if everything else doesn't lose you points in terms of your feminine allure then you should be fine. As someone else said it can come off as sultry when you are flirting. It can also come off boisterous, intimidating too. If you are doing well when it comes to guys (which I think you say when say you have no problem) then really I don't think you need to worry about sounding like your t-girl friend too much. You're sort of articulating what I was struggling to, this is sort of what I mean. There is definitely another element at play than how deep a voice is, regarding masculine vs feminine. Women with deeper voices still sound distinctly female to me, and men with higher voices still sound distinctly male to me. Like if they talked and I couldn't see them, had to guess the gender, I'd be willing bet some serious cash that I'd get it right at least 90% of the time, even if there were some deep-voiced women and high-voiced men in the mix. Like I said I think it also matters how a woman talks. If she has a deeper voice but speaks in a softer, lower manner then she basically has a phone sex voice lol. I used to work with a woman who talked like that and it was secretly funny to me. Whereas if she speaks very harshly and loudly, like a pissed off cat, much of the time, then the hertz don't even matter, still gonna sound off-putting. 2
Author Nickierose19 Posted January 10, 2015 Author Posted January 10, 2015 i have been told i have dulcet tones......i can go low or high....depends....i know it is instantly recognisable when i like a guy.....it is softer sweeter.....i cant really yell...when i do ...i have coughing spasms it hurts my throat..rips it out..when i sing i can hold a note but its light and breathy unless i am singing low and that it is really sort of two tonal..a toen that comes like a hum underneath from my throat........in a guy i guess i look for tone above all else.....there are certain tones i cant listen to for very long......i cant help it.....i have to go off in my head somewhere.....i couldnt stand commerce at school...because i couldnt listen.....the teacher had a tone that wasnt pleasant to me...often gave me whip lash.... .with guys.....a tone attracts me in the first place.....its a rare one...my ex a body builder had a tone that was unlike his physical presence....it was soft sweet ...actually arresting to me..commanding for me to listen to ....so pleasant.....i made him talk more which is often what i do when i love a voice.....make them talk more.....than what i do.....its in the chuckle too...a tone that carries.... i dont think to have a deep voice is bad at all for a woman or a man....having a harsh and grating voice a growl more or less...much less attractive..unless of course you are asked to growl...i prefer a purr.......deb..... My voice type is weird I have an "angelic" voice type but I can't reach high notes I much rather sing male vocals usually baritone. But my voice is very light with 3 octaves. 1
Author Nickierose19 Posted January 10, 2015 Author Posted January 10, 2015 A heavy voice for a woman could be seen as unattractive, maybe in terms of being less feminine, but its just one aspect of you, and if everything else doesn't lose you points in terms of your feminine allure then you should be fine. As someone else said it can come off as sultry when you are flirting. It can also come off boisterous, intimidating too. If you are doing well when it comes to guys (which I think you say when say you have no problem) then really I don't think you need to worry about sounding like your t-girl friend too much. On the flip side studies have shown women have definite preference for guys with deeper voices (more masculine) so guys with higher pitched voices (like a lot of jockeys) will have a harder time creating that sexual appeal in many women. I don't sound like similar to like someone who is transgender. On the hz scale my voice is female. It's just deeper I'll put two vids up to show you what I mean. 1
Author Nickierose19 Posted January 10, 2015 Author Posted January 10, 2015 My voice is naturally about 190-200 on the hz scale. A bit lower than this because my voice had to be louder so slightly higher. But my voice goes deeper when I'm flirting to about 180 on the hz scale. Untitled on Vimeo 1
Eddy Street Posted January 10, 2015 Posted January 10, 2015 Depends on the woman. African American women tend to have very heavy voices and many are very attractive. Same with south Asian women and Latinas, very attractive despite full voice. I think overly thin voices are unattractive, but it all depends on the woman.
A O Posted January 10, 2015 Posted January 10, 2015 I don't quite know what a heavy voice sounds like, despite what has been mentioned here. I do know that a person's voice is important...certain monotone voices don't do a lot for me and a really girlie kiddult sounding voice that I encountered once was a real turn off. On the other hand there are some strong, very distinctive sounding female voices that pique my curiosity. I'll probably encounter a woman with a deep, man's sounding voice in the not too distant future given the ironic way life works.
Author Nickierose19 Posted January 10, 2015 Author Posted January 10, 2015 (edited) You're sort of articulating what I was struggling to, this is sort of what I mean. There is definitely another element at play than how deep a voice is, regarding masculine vs feminine. Women with deeper voices still sound distinctly female to me, and men with higher voices still sound distinctly male to me. Like if they talked and I couldn't see them, had to guess the gender, I'd be willing bet some serious cash that I'd get it right at least 90% of the time, even if there were some deep-voiced women and high-voiced men in the mix. Like I said I think it also matters how a woman talks. If she has a deeper voice but speaks in a softer, lower manner then she basically has a phone sex voice lol. I used to work with a woman who talked like that and it was secretly funny to me. Whereas if she speaks very harshly and loudly, like a pissed off cat, much of the time, then the hertz don't even matter, still gonna sound off-putting. My mom's family usually sound like regular men their voices tend to crack at puberty even. My grandma even confuses little kid because she sounds like a legit man with a deep voice at that. Buyout of them I have a lighter voice. Most of my aunts with lighter voices sound like me. Which means they sound female but the voice is very low only my mom and her sister have high voice types. I have a high voice myself but my natural voice is a deep female voice and I'm only 21. So its troublesome to think who I'll sound like at 40. My mom once said I sounded like my aunt Tanya (the one who sounds like a gay man) because I was speaking that low. Overall my voice sounds like a low female voice. I was just wondering if it was unattractive I've heard some say they thought my voice would be higher while others would say my voice sounded niceish. Here's my natural voice. Well as close it gets I had to lighten it so I could be heard. I have a low voice so sometimes it sounds like inaudible mumbling when I'm totally comfortable. Untitled on Vimeo My lighter "head" voice. Untitled on Vimeo Edited January 10, 2015 by Nickierose19
Author Nickierose19 Posted January 10, 2015 Author Posted January 10, 2015 Depends on the woman. African American women tend to have very heavy voices and many are very attractive. Same with south Asian women and Latinas, very attractive despite full voice. I think overly thin voices are unattractive, but it all depends on the woman. Yeah we're black. Most of my mom's family normal voices though for african Americans. The thing is though my voice doesn't usually sound as though I'm black people assume I'm white from the Midwest which is where I'm from. I just have a deeper voice.
Author Nickierose19 Posted January 10, 2015 Author Posted January 10, 2015 I don't quite know what a heavy voice sounds like, despite what has been mentioned here. I do know that a person's voice is important...certain monotone voices don't do a lot for me and a really girlie kiddult sounding voice that I encountered once was a real turn off. On the other hand there are some strong, very distinctive sounding female voices that pique my curiosity. I'll probably encounter a woman with a deep, man's sounding voice in the not too distant future given the ironic way life works. Just imagine any normal man's voice on a woman. Or like a stereotypical male voice on a woman. Mine isn't to that extreme it's monotone and sounds like voice didn't drop. My voice never cracked really as a teen it did go through a stage but it never completely cracked so it stayed in female range.
Author Nickierose19 Posted January 10, 2015 Author Posted January 10, 2015 a lot of the singers who are male that i have fallen in love with their voice have a higher speaking voices...when they sing its angelic.......melodius...multi tonal..can go both ways...cello depths and harp highs...i love soft sweet guy voices.....and i like deep toned guy voices...i think its more maybe in what is said and how it is said that also counts with a voice.................deb I prefer very deep bass or baritone voices because my voice is deep I like male version of that. It turns me on. 1
todreaminblue Posted January 10, 2015 Posted January 10, 2015 I prefer very deep bass or baritone voices because my voice is deep I like male version of that. It turns me on. james earl jones deep? i love his voice because it is also cultured......distinguished...
Noproblem Posted January 10, 2015 Posted January 10, 2015 can you give me example a celebrity that has a voice similar to yours so I can understand!
Author Nickierose19 Posted January 10, 2015 Author Posted January 10, 2015 can you give me example a celebrity that has a voice similar to yours so I can understand! I already have 2 vids of my voice my natural voice and high voice.
Author Nickierose19 Posted January 10, 2015 Author Posted January 10, 2015 james earl jones deep? i love his voice because it is also cultured......distinguished... It's nice. But I like voices that mirror my own.
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