DC77 Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 So is being a Guys Girl all that bad?? I'm a Guys Girl and I know it. I don't think or act in typical women conventions. I'm level. Reasonable. Rarely lose my temper. I like and play sports. Drink beer and whiskey. And am in no ever lovin hurry to settle down let alone interested in having children. Yet I look very feminine. Petite. Attractive. Fit. I like fashion. I also love to cook. Am warm and nurturing. And very genuine. So even though I may think like and do dude like things, I'm definitely still a girl... I bring this up because after yet another crappy breakup, I went out on another date. And this guy flat out said that I was gorgeous but that I had very little to offer. I was a guys girl. A dude with a vagina. And the reason I can't maintain a relationship is because I'm in no hurry to get married. Whoa?! Not that I let random people get under my skin, I feel pretty happy with myself. But I am open to more opinions about dating a Girls Guy. Is it really all that bad???
TouchedByViolet Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 I have always had a thing for tomboy type girls, as long as they are feminine like yourself. Makes it easier to share activities.
katlover Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 Ay I think the problem here is that the guys you are going out with do not like you for who you are. These guys think you're attractive and all but do not like your type of personality(guys girl according to you). And if this is the case then it is their loss. You just need to find someone who you are compatible with. You say you are happy with yourself so don't let any guy try and change you. Go find a guy who will accept you for who you are even if you have to go through a few hundred guys.
Shepp Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 I have always had a thing for tomboy type girls, as long as they are feminine like yourself. Makes it easier to share activities. Second that! My wife's a guys girl! Pretty darn hot that she's the only OH that comes to poker nights or goes to watch the footie with me and the lads! Seriously though, plenty of dudes dig that! I for one believe you should love every second of your life - love what your doing and do it with the people you love - not go rock climbing with that dude that gets on your wick and then suffer clothes shopping with the girl you love.
Assada Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 So is being a Guys Girl all that bad?? I'm a Guys Girl and I know it. I don't think or act in typical women conventions. I'm level. Reasonable. Rarely lose my temper. I like and play sports. Drink beer and whiskey. And am in no ever lovin hurry to settle down let alone interested in having children. Yet I look very feminine. Petite. Attractive. Fit. I like fashion. I also love to cook. Am warm and nurturing. And very genuine. So even though I may think like and do dude like things, I'm definitely still a girl... I bring this up because after yet another crappy breakup, I went out on another date. And this guy flat out said that I was gorgeous but that I had very little to offer. I was a guys girl. A dude with a vagina. And the reason I can't maintain a relationship is because I'm in no hurry to get married. Whoa?! Not that I let random people get under my skin, I feel pretty happy with myself. But I am open to more opinions about dating a Girls Guy. Is it really all that bad??? The guys that you go out with arnt comfortable with who they are. So they have a problem with you. Try to go out with more secure guys in the future
veggirl Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 Nothing you said makes you sound like a dude or guys girl to me. Level, reasonable, even-tempered...those are masculine traits now? Liking sports? Tons of women like sports. A guy called you a dude with a vagina because you like football? Really? Even though you describe yourself as warm, gorgeous and nurturing? Hmmm. 2
Satu Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 Not that I let random people get under my skin, I feel pretty happy with myself. But I am open to more opinions about dating a Girls Guy. Is it really all that bad??? Enjoy being yourself
me85 Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 To heck with that moron! I'm proud to be one of the guys. I wouldn't change for anyone. The guys I dated loved that about me. I'm like you, I'm attractive, still feminine but am definitely not one of the girls. Really, I'm one of those people that will fit in anywhere EXCEPT around a table with a bunch of married mamas talking about their kids and how tired they always are. No thanks. That happened to me a few months ago. My cousin dragged me along with her to hang out with her friends and it was totally just so she wouldn't be the only single girl there without kids! I was watching a football game pretty much the whole time. I mean, one of them brought along her newborn...to what was supposed to be a girls night out! Another one was pregnant and another just talked about her 15 year old the entire time...wow. That's not a typical girls night out, I don't think. Especially if there isn't any alcohol involved, I mean, come on...
Author DC77 Posted January 9, 2015 Author Posted January 9, 2015 Thanks All for the input. I think this site has a lot of insightful and respectable posts. @veggirl: I tried to keep it short so only brought up the points this dude focused on. Of course those aren't solely masculine traits, but so many guys Just seem to expect a girl to be crazy and needy. There are many more dude like things I do, but what really seemed to throw this guy was my absence of a biological clock or lack of absolute need to get married. That's what he most related to being "dudish." He is very concerned with the future, and I'm perfectly happy living and appreciating people in the present. He said I was an anomaly. This dude an I are obviously not on the same page. What struck a nerve though was him relating my dudeness to my string of bad luck and my last breakup (which is still fairly fresh). I really liked the last guy I dated but got the ol' "you're everything I should want. You're awesome. Perfect...but I'm not ready." Not the first time I've heard that! That same guy was also so confused at my lack of anger when he forgot to stop at the store one time. He really didn't know what to do or say... But it's good to hear there are guys out there that could maybe someday accept me! I think my petite stature tends to attract these guys, macho protector type. Regardless, it was pretty ****ty for the guy to say because I'm not looking for marriage I'm only a pretty face and piece of ass.
umirano Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 So is being a Guys Girl all that bad?? I'm a Guys Girl and I know it. I don't think or act in typical women conventions. I'm level. Reasonable. Rarely lose my temper. I like and play sports. Drink beer and whiskey. I liked your self description up to the beer bit. I wouldn't advertise that too much. And am in no ever lovin hurry to settle down What kind of RS are you looking for then? FWB? let alone interested in having children. Ever? For some people that's exactly what they're looking for. Others don't think of children themselves, so it's expected that some dates won't work out for that reason. But it's not a problem. And this guy flat out said that I was gorgeous but that I had very little to offer. I was a guys girl. Garbage. A dude with a vagina. He actually said that? And the reason I can't maintain a relationship is because I'm in no hurry to get married. Whoa?! Whoa indeed. I hope you ended the date after that. For he's a tool and lacks even a shred of politeness. Not that I let random people get under my skin, I feel pretty happy with myself. But I am open to more opinions about dating a Girls Guy. Is it really all that bad??? A guys girl, yeah, I wouldn't really have a problem with it. I'm dating one right now. I want trust, honesty and no games. My girl can do guy things and hang out with guys as long as it's clear that we're in an exclusive RS. Children and marriage is something else, there it's really important that both partners have similar plans and expectations. I don't see a problem if a girl tells me she never ever wants kids. It's fine, she's just not for me then.
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