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Hello everybody,

 

I am new on here and turning to you guys because i am completely lost and realy do not know what to do.

 

So i'll just start at the beginning. Two years ago i moved countries and came here, after only two weeks i met this wonderfull guy and we fell in love very quickly, moved in very quickly... all that. Unfortunally trough out our relathionship there would be events happening that complicated a lot of things.

It was a turbulent time and it became worse.. so finally my ex decided to break things off altough he was still in love with me and so was i.

Altouhght he did not handle de break up very well and was selfish in the proces i could not accept the fact that it was over.

I loved him so much and i truely tought he was THE guy for me.

We were stil living together after the break up and at times it would be like nothing changed and we were back 100 percent in love and then at times, i would get mad because he was going out so much, and then all would backfire on me and he would get mad and would say that it was the best decision to break up.

This went on for a month or so. Finally he invited me on a little vacation, i did not know what to think of it because he still wanted to break up. But i went a long with it and the vacation was great but ended in a huge fight.

This ended up in him moving out for good without saying a word....

I was left totally heartbroken and went back to my native country for two months to be with my family.

 

But even after this time i could not accept the fact that it was realy over.

So i moved back to his town (other country) and contacted him.

We were seeing eachoter from time to time and we were having a great time, just untill the day we got into a stupid fight.

The day after this fight i send him a, e-mail. I told him in that e-mail that i would love to get back together after the wonderfull time we were having and that now, that our situations were different our relathionship could realy work. This was the biggest mistake i could make. Because after this e-mail he completly shut down and refused to talk to mee or see me.

 

I now accepted that it is realy over. But i just can't cope wit the fact that he changed his mind in a blink of an instant. And that he refuses to see mee, like i did something wrong.

 

So now i got on with my life and will be moving back to my native country in less than 3 weeks. But before i leave i would realy like to see him one last time. What should i do? Can i just step by his house?

 

I am sorry in advance for this long story but i realy hope that you guys have some advice for me.

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no, you can't go to his house one last time.

 

despite your strong feelings, the relationship doesn't work. there is too much drama: fighting, ignoring, moving away, moving back, ignoring, fighting.

 

this guy was willing to enjoy you for the attention, the sex, and the company. but you are too attached to him and quite emotional, and he has decided that he no longer wants to deal.

 

you have done as much as anyone could do. you even left your native country to be with him. but, even after that, the relationship doesn't work. go home, heal, and find someone with whom you can have a sane, loving relationship.

 

again, NO, you cannot go to his house one last time.

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So now i got on with my life and will be moving back to my native country in less than 3 weeks. But before i leave i would realy like to see him one last time. What should i do? Can i just step by his house?.

 

You need to stop recycling this. I lost count the many times you both had a "fight" and got back together again.

 

He doesn't want to see you and has shut you out. Don't chase someone that doesn't want to be chased. There is no perfect ending and this is where you leave it as it was and you move on.

 

And you DON'T stop by his house because it can possibly anger him and cause you even more heartache if he shuns you.

 

You say you accept that it is over, let it be over. One last time is only going to hurt you even more. Your closure comes from you accepting that the relationship was never meant to be.

 

Now, hold on to your dignity and self-respect and focus forward on starting a new life in 3 weeks.

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Don't go to see him.

 

All it will do is cause more pain for both of you.

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