beach_girl Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 Hi guys. So obviously a coffee date/movie date etc. equals one date, but does the same rule apply for weekend stayovers? I.e. if I'm visiting my boyfriend for three days (Friday to Sunday), is this equal to more than one date? If so, how many? Sorry, it's probably a stupid question but something I've always wondered about. Because if it's one date, then I've been one three (stayover) dates (which in total are actually seven days minimum). I never see my guy during the week. After our second 'normal' date, we have been doing weekend stayovers. Hope this makes sense
PegNosePete Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 There are no rules for this kind of thing. You can apply whatever counting method you choose. Why do you need to count, anyway? When it gets to the stage of weekend stayovers you're probably past counting dates, and measuring your relationship in terms of weeks or months instead? 6
Assada Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 Seems like you have no problem staying over with someone you dont know. Its a pretty semantic question, that doesnt really matter in my opinion. Are you trying to explain to your Mamma, how many times youve been over to this guys house, who you barely know, in terms of dates? 3
newlyborn Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 what are you doing during these "weekend dates?" if a large part of the time is spent in bed, then i think you may have a problem on your hands. 1
veggirl Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 why does it matter how many dates a weekend stayover equals? personally I think if you're still in the stage of counting dates, you shouldn't be staying over for a whole weekend, seems a bit much. why don't you have dates during the week? do you always go stay with him or does he come to stay with you as well? are you guys ldr? I don't get why you'd start staying the whole weekend on the 2nd date. 1
Author beach_girl Posted January 9, 2015 Author Posted January 9, 2015 Seems like you have no problem staying over with someone you dont know. Its a pretty semantic question, that doesnt really matter in my opinion. Are you trying to explain to your Mamma, how many times youve been over to this guys house, who you barely know, in terms of dates? I've actually known the guy since August, so he's not a stranger. He's met my family, stayed over for family weekends, and I've met his family and friends. No need to explain anything to my mom, since I'm not sleeping with this guy - I'm waiting for marriage.
Author beach_girl Posted January 9, 2015 Author Posted January 9, 2015 why does it matter how many dates a weekend stayover equals? personally I think if you're still in the stage of counting dates, you shouldn't be staying over for a whole weekend, seems a bit much. why don't you have dates during the week? do you always go stay with him or does he come to stay with you as well? are you guys ldr? I don't get why you'd start staying the whole weekend on the 2nd date. We both work long hours during the week and he lives an hour away. He works every second weekend as well. He comes visit me as well.
Author beach_girl Posted January 9, 2015 Author Posted January 9, 2015 what are you doing during these "weekend dates?" if a large part of the time is spent in bed, then i think you may have a problem on your hands. Very good point and I agree. He sleeps on the couch and I sleep on the bed. We're both Christians so waiting for marriage before having sex, and he's very respectful of me. We usually go out with his friends, watch movies, lounge around the house, talk and go to church.
newlyborn Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 so, are you counting dates because you want to know when it will be soon enough to make a case for marrying him?
Author beach_girl Posted January 9, 2015 Author Posted January 9, 2015 so, are you counting dates because you want to know when it will be soon enough to make a case for marrying him? Haha. I'm in no rush to get married The reason why I'm asking this question is that two of my closest friends have asked on how many dates we've went since meeting, and in my mind this doesn't qualify as a date. They just got me thinking, and I wanted to hear your thoughts on the matter. Was just asking this question out of curiosity.
Rydo Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 A weekend equals 3.14 dates. That's rounded to two decimal points obviously or I would run out of space. 4
veggirl Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 Haha. I'm in no rush to get married The reason why I'm asking this question is that two of my closest friends have asked on how many dates we've went since meeting, and in my mind this doesn't qualify as a date. They just got me thinking, and I wanted to hear your thoughts on the matter. Was just asking this question out of curiosity. In that case, I'd count each day you're there as a date. Or you could just say "well we are only able to get together on weekends, so we spend all weekend together" and leave it at that. Unless they are asking about like...date-dates, as in dinner dates, movie dates, mini golf dates, hookah dates, whatever. In that case, count those instead.
Mrin Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 I've actually known the guy since August, so he's not a stranger. He's met my family, stayed over for family weekends, and I've met his family and friends. No need to explain anything to my mom, since I'm not sleeping with this guy - I'm waiting for marriage. No need to count especially due to the bolded text. Honestly, given the nature of your relationship I would probably measure the depth or length of your relationships in really good conversations or shared experiences. I mean, that is your substitute for intimacy and really is what determines the strength of your love affair. Side Comment: Love how we all (me included) went straight into the gutter when you mentioned multi day stayovers and it turns out this courtship would only be mildly scandalous in the Victorian era. ;-) 4
ComingInHot Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 Just tell them what you wrote there. ...and that should fly with Anyone who asks! CiH* 2
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