Delcore Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 Well, here it goes! I'm a 16 year old highschool male interested in a girl I presume who is 1-2 years older than me. The only time I see this girl at any time is when I see her walking through the hallway by herself for a period of about 5-10 seconds (May I note this has been going on since the beginning of the school year now). Anyway, I'd like to talk to her but I don't got much to really say or throw out on the table in terms of flirting. The only thing I could really think to resort to is saying something out in a foreign language in Italian in a joking manner. For example: Me: *Walking up to her and tapping her on the shoulder* - Sei troppo bella Her: - What? Me: - Na, I'm just messing with ya in Italian! I said I think you're really beautiful. Would this be a good way to start with a complete stranger I like or no? Opinions Please!
PegNosePete Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 If you're going to do it, do it right Sei molto bella. (Molto is "very" whereas troppo is "too much", and neither changes ending with gender) At your young age, yeah why not? What's the worst that could happen? Even if you get rejected or laughed at, it will be good practice, learning how to talk to girls, becoming more confident in yourself. And if you try it with enough girls - eventually it will work 1
Author Delcore Posted January 9, 2015 Author Posted January 9, 2015 If you're going to do it, do it right Sei molto bella. (Molto is "very" whereas troppo is "too much", and neither changes ending with gender) At your young age, yeah why not? What's the worst that could happen? Even if you get rejected or laughed at, it will be good practice, learning how to talk to girls, becoming more confident in yourself. And if you try it with enough girls - eventually it will work But is it a good idea or too much of a stretch? Afraid I might come off creepy or something.
J2911 Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 But is it a good idea or too much of a stretch? Afraid I might come off creepy or something. This is so sweet and cute and we have all been where you are at your age . Well most of us guys I bet. Why not ask her if you can walk her to her class room and ask if you can carry her books as well . That is an old school and sweet gesture . I'm old fashioned still so that is what I would do if I were you .
Assada Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 Well, here it goes! I'm a 16 year old highschool male interested in a girl I presume who is 1-2 years older than me. The only time I see this girl at any time is when I see her walking through the hallway by herself for a period of about 5-10 seconds (May I note this has been going on since the beginning of the school year now). Anyway, I'd like to talk to her but I don't got much to really say or throw out on the table in terms of flirting. The only thing I could really think to resort to is saying something out in a foreign language in Italian in a joking manner. For example: Me: *Walking up to her and tapping her on the shoulder* - Sei troppo bella Her: - What? Me: - Na, I'm just messing with ya in Italian! I said I think you're really beautiful. Would this be a good way to start with a complete stranger I like or no? Opinions Please! Sweet Lord, Calm down on the cheese a little bit Watchin a lot of Rom-coms huh? What you do is, you walk up to her. You say, I see you in this hallway a lot. Whats your name? Then you tell her your name. Then say "See ya around" and leave
Author Delcore Posted January 9, 2015 Author Posted January 9, 2015 Sweet Lord, Calm down on the cheese a little bit Watchin a lot of Rom-coms huh? What you do is, you walk up to her. You say, I see you in this hallway a lot. Whats your name? Then you tell her your name. Then say "See ya around" and leave I will preface this and state that I don't find this to be 'cheese' nor do I watch anything called "Rom-Coms". All I am trying to do is come up with a productive and creative way to ask a female I've never said a word to before out. Doesn't your take on the matter seem a bit creepy though?
Ieris Posted January 10, 2015 Posted January 10, 2015 @Delcore - that is so cute! Man, I miss high school... I hope she likes you back, good luck! x
Danda Posted January 10, 2015 Posted January 10, 2015 I will preface this and state that I don't find this to be 'cheese' nor do I watch anything called "Rom-Coms". All I am trying to do is come up with a productive and creative way to ask a female I've never said a word to before out. Doesn't your take on the matter seem a bit creepy though? The thing is that she doesn't know anything about you. She has never talked to you before in her life. You are going to be a stranger popping up out of nowhere (from her perception) commenting on her appearance (which most women interpret accurately as "I've thought of you sexually before" even if you phrase it like "You're very cute/pretty") and asking her out. It's like the romantic equivalent of a flashbang grenade. The only way she will say yes is if she is so caught off guard and leans heavier towards "polite" than "defense" and thus blurts out yes. But you don't want that to be the reason she says yes. She will probably just awkwardly avoid you once she can process it clearly. There is a very slim chance that you method will work, though, because hey, there's enough variety in humanity for that chance to exist. But that chance is much lower than if you gradually get to know her and her get to know you, before startling her with foreign language from a stranger during passing period, making comments about your attraction to her and asking her out. So it depends on how you are looking at this, I guess. Like do you want the experience and thrill under your belt of boldly flirting? That in itself is valuable even if you get shot down and your method could be a fun way of doing it. If you're already feeling invested and want to give it your "best" (like thinking in terms of strategy and not experience) then again, flashbang grenade is probably not the best route. 1
preraph Posted January 10, 2015 Posted January 10, 2015 The worst that can happen is she isn't interested but thinks it's funny and goes and tells all her little girlfriends and then half of them decide they're crushing on you. Go for it.
Author Delcore Posted January 10, 2015 Author Posted January 10, 2015 The thing is that she doesn't know anything about you. She has never talked to you before in her life. You are going to be a stranger popping up out of nowhere (from her perception) commenting on her appearance (which most women interpret accurately as "I've thought of you sexually before" even if you phrase it like "You're very cute/pretty") and asking her out. It's like the romantic equivalent of a flashbang grenade. The only way she will say yes is if she is so caught off guard and leans heavier towards "polite" than "defense" and thus blurts out yes. But you don't want that to be the reason she says yes. She will probably just awkwardly avoid you once she can process it clearly. There is a very slim chance that you method will work, though, because hey, there's enough variety in humanity for that chance to exist. But that chance is much lower than if you gradually get to know her and her get to know you, before startling her with foreign language from a stranger during passing period, making comments about your attraction to her and asking her out. So it depends on how you are looking at this, I guess. Like do you want the experience and thrill under your belt of boldly flirting? That in itself is valuable even if you get shot down and your method could be a fun way of doing it. If you're already feeling invested and want to give it your "best" (like thinking in terms of strategy and not experience) then again, flashbang grenade is probably not the best route. Well, let me hammer out an opinion of mine in this case scenario. From my perspective, I feel that if I were to take Assada's advice and do the following: What you do is, you walk up to her. You say, I see you in this hallway a lot. Whats your name? Then you tell her your name. Then say "See ya around" and leave. --> As a male, wouldn't taking this scenario lead to an awkward greeting since the only thing I asked for was a name and the only thing that was concluded was a see you around?.. Now obviously, this can be taken plenty of steps further but, doesn't coming off with that sort of mind frame pretty much put yourself at the stand and her will a tad bit more than my alternative? It just seems like you're giving the other party a bigger upper hand to crack at you. On the other hand, there's honestly (atleast as far as I can see) no real way for me to seriously get to know this girl unless I do something that comes off as slightly creepy/interested. Yes sure, flirting is great and all but if I obviously don't have classes with the girl then one can pretty much rule flirting out of the picture. So with all of this being said, I'm trying to do something for her that will compliment her appearance and explain my interest in her. What's wrong with this initiative?
angel.eyes Posted January 10, 2015 Posted January 10, 2015 You're overthinking things! Just say "hi" and smile. If she responds positively, give her your name and ask for hers. Keep it simple.
Gaeta Posted January 10, 2015 Posted January 10, 2015 For example: Me: *Walking up to her and tapping her on the shoulder* - Sei troppo bella Her: - What? Me: - Na, I'm just messing with ya in Italian! I said I think you're really beautiful. Would this be a good way to start with a complete stranger I like or no? Opinions Please! No, it's a terrible idea but I am old and I am not impressed by compliments toward my looks. It would probably work on a 16 year old though. Try it, come back and tell us about it.
Author Delcore Posted January 10, 2015 Author Posted January 10, 2015 I appreciate the opinions even if some folks disagree (I asked for opinions after all lol). It's just that now I'm getting negatives and positives out of the both ends here. AHHHHH!!!! Gonna pull these hairs out of mah hair!
angel.eyes Posted January 10, 2015 Posted January 10, 2015 Here's what will likely happen... You'll attempt to compliment her in Italian, but will mangle it out of nervousness, then get embarrassed and feel awkward. She will have no idea how to react to your outburst. So she'll giggle, and you'll feel even more foolish, embarrassed and awkward. The next day you'll have to deal with girls giggling and whispering as they stare at you while passing in the hallway. Romantic gestures towards strangers can work...just not in the public hallways of a high school. Just say "hi." Save the grand gestures for when you can interact with someone privately or you know the person will react positively. 1
Author Delcore Posted January 10, 2015 Author Posted January 10, 2015 Here's what will likely happen... You'll attempt to compliment her in Italian, but will mangle it out of nervousness, then get embarrassed and feel awkward. She will have no idea how to react to your outburst. So she'll giggle, and you'll feel even more foolish, embarrassed and awkward. The next day you'll have to deal with girls giggling and whispering as they stare at you while passing in the hallway. Romantic gestures towards strangers can work...just not in the public hallways of a high school. Just say "hi." Save the grand gestures for when you can interact with someone privately or you know the person will react positively. Then what do you propose if I'd do then if I'm interested in a girl whom I don't know and only see her via the hallwayh?
angel.eyes Posted January 10, 2015 Posted January 10, 2015 To repeat the advice given you in several earlier posts, you say "hi" and if she responds positively to that, introduce yourself as you would in any other interaction with a stranger.
Assada Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 think about this. When she says. "What does that mean?" And you say, "Its youre beautiful in Italian" She's just going to say, "Oh, thanks, Bye" - Then youre done, hahaha Whats worst, is you could say "Sei troppo bella" and she looks at you and just walks away. Just ask her, her name. "Its much easier" After you get to know her, you can play the role of "entertainer" all you want
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