Ordinaryday Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 and broke your heart and you didnt hear from them in two years, not a single word at all, and then out of nowhere you got a text message that simply said "Hi how are you? Do you forgive me for what went on between us? Hope you are well?" would you respond to it? what would you say? or would you delete it?
Light Breeze Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 It will depend on how you were dumped imo. For me, if I feel indifferent about her and hopefully I'm with someone new, then yes. We had such happy times, and I think by that time I would just be thankful that we shared those. I wouldn't be selfish enough to deny her the forgiveness she craves. Again, depends if I'm over her or not.
Author Ordinaryday Posted January 9, 2015 Author Posted January 9, 2015 I would say "who is this?" Actually I did do that with one girl and it did not have the desired effect. You see, she sent me back a text saying something like "haha we used to date ages ago but if you cant even remember me that is so funny! hahah well if you cant remember me there is obviously no hard feelings, all the best hey!". thing is she treated me appallingly and I meant the "who is this?" as a sarcastic comment and she took it at face value! I learned that in email and text it can be extremely difficult to tell if someone is serious or sarcastic so it is best just to be upfront to prevent that confusion.;
lil hoodlum Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 Wow! That is pretty bold. It depends on the nature of the relationship and breakup. I, for one, am not interested in alleviating anyones guilt for being the receiving end of horrible treatment. I would recommend either not replying or simply respond with "What do you want from me?" If they have the stones to be so bold, I feel that it is only fair for you to be just as bold. 4
Author Ordinaryday Posted January 9, 2015 Author Posted January 9, 2015 Wow! That is pretty bold. It depends on the nature of the relationship and breakup. I, for one, am not interested in alleviating anyones guilt for being the receiving end of horrible treatment. I would recommend either not replying or simply respond with "What do you want from me?" If they have the stones to be so bold, I feel that it is only fair for you to be just as bold. perfect response! A point I have often made on here is that as the dumper is not responsible for your happiness you are not responsible for theirs either. dumpers feel that they have to dump you as they will be happier without you in their life, that is their right. but for me to be happy I need to move on and part of moving on means not having contact with the dumper, and that includes sending them a three-line text to alleviate their guilt. they dont have to feel guilty about dumping someone, but if they do that is on them and it is not the role of the dumpee to make them feel less guilty. 2
erklat Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 I would never grant her forgiveness. But I don't know if I would completely ignore or I would ask what do you need form me - less likely though because that would probably start unwanted discussion. This is exactly why dumper needs to show their intentions in the first letter when they reach out. 2
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