Thinking about breaking up, but not sure .

[Starlings_x]

I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He is 20 and I'm 23. We've been having issues for awhile now. I don't really know how long it's been. Lately, he has been staying up until 6 in the morning playing video games. (I go to bed at around 9-11pm). We don't live together. I have no problem with him playing video games or having hobbies of his own, (we actually share the passion for video games together and I have played them with him for years). However, I feel like it's kind of affecting our relationship because he is starting to act and completely treat me different.

 

First and foremost, I've been through EVERYTHING with this guy. We've been through a lot together and we have a lot of history. He helped me get over a break up and before we got together he was my best friend. I still consider him my best friend. I love him a lot.

 

Anyway, back to what I was saying. His video game addiction really puts on a strain on our relationship because to put it bluntly, he treats me like **** when he's really into a game. He was really into Hearthstone a few months ago, and he was trying to get "Legendary" in it (which is like a top rank), and he honestly was so mean to me. If I tried to spend time with him, or asked him to come spend time with me, he'd snap and make me cry. He no longer plays Hearthstone, but now he's constantly staying up till 6, 7, 8am even. He goes to college via online and does ALL his schoolwork in 1 day so he has the entire week to play games or whatever. On Christmas Eve and Christmas, he made me cry. I was already having a bad Christmas, because I didn't have anyone to spend time with and he didn't want to spend much time with me, and he snapped at me and said "WE CAN'T SPEND EVERY CHRISTMAS TOGETHER" and was just so mean to me and made me cry.

 

He doesn't wake up until 2-4pm in the afternoon. He does things around the house, then he goes to play games. If I try to talk to him sometimes when he wakes up, he acts like I'm annoying. If I tell him how I feel about it, he just says "ugh".

 

I know you're probably thinking, why am I still with this person? Because one day, he'll be really great. We'll spend a few hours together, watch a tv show, play a game together, talk and have a few laughs. Then it's getting late 9-11pm, I go to sleep. He stays up until 6-8am playing video games with his friends. Then if I try to talk to him the next day, he's really rude to me again. I'm all for someone having hobbies, but it's getting to the point where he's completely treating me different because of it.

 

When we fight, I have to ASK HIM to apologize. It's like he doesn't even respect me enough to apologize. And I'm supposed to be his best friend. What keeps me here is that he'll give me a good day, then it's back to acting like I'm so annoying. I went to my brother's house so we could all play together, he slept in until 3pm, didn't show up and played another game on his computer at home instead, and expects me to play with him later tonight when I have other things to do. Then when I tell him I can't, he acts like he doesn't care.

 

Sorry if this is long. I know I hate long posts but I'm just so lost on what to do. Thank you.

[J2911]

I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He is 20 and I'm 23. We've been having issues for awhile now. I don't really know how long it's been. Lately, he has been staying up until 6 in the morning playing video games. (I go to bed at around 9-11pm). We don't live together. I have no problem with him playing video games or having hobbies of his own, (we actually share the passion for video games together and I have played them with him for years). However, I feel like it's kind of affecting our relationship because he is starting to act and completely treat me different.

 

First and foremost, I've been through EVERYTHING with this guy. We've been through a lot together and we have a lot of history. He helped me get over a break up and before we got together he was my best friend. I still consider him my best friend. I love him a lot.

 

Anyway, back to what I was saying. His video game addiction really puts on a strain on our relationship because to put it bluntly, he treats me like **** when he's really into a game. He was really into Hearthstone a few months ago, and he was trying to get "Legendary" in it (which is like a top rank), and he honestly was so mean to me. If I tried to spend time with him, or asked him to come spend time with me, he'd snap and make me cry. He no longer plays Hearthstone, but now he's constantly staying up till 6, 7, 8am even. He goes to college via online and does ALL his schoolwork in 1 day so he has the entire week to play games or whatever. On Christmas Eve and Christmas, he made me cry. I was already having a bad Christmas, because I didn't have anyone to spend time with and he didn't want to spend much time with me, and he snapped at me and said "WE CAN'T SPEND EVERY CHRISTMAS TOGETHER" and was just so mean to me and made me cry.

 

He doesn't wake up until 2-4pm in the afternoon. He does things around the house, then he goes to play games. If I try to talk to him sometimes when he wakes up, he acts like I'm annoying. If I tell him how I feel about it, he just says "ugh".

 

I know you're probably thinking, why am I still with this person? Because one day, he'll be really great. We'll spend a few hours together, watch a tv show, play a game together, talk and have a few laughs. Then it's getting late 9-11pm, I go to sleep. He stays up until 6-8am playing video games with his friends. Then if I try to talk to him the next day, he's really rude to me again. I'm all for someone having hobbies, but it's getting to the point where he's completely treating me different because of it.

 

When we fight, I have to ASK HIM to apologize. It's like he doesn't even respect me enough to apologize. And I'm supposed to be his best friend. What keeps me here is that he'll give me a good day, then it's back to acting like I'm so annoying. I went to my brother's house so we could all play together, he slept in until 3pm, didn't show up and played another game on his computer at home instead, and expects me to play with him later tonight when I have other things to do. Then when I tell him I can't, he acts like he doesn't care.

 

Sorry if this is long. I know I hate long posts but I'm just so lost on what to do. Thank you.

 

 

 

Good Lord ! In my opinion it's time to grow up and be a man and stop playing video games . He obviously isn't ready to grow up right now . Until he grows up you will have to put up with it. If you leave him then MAYBE he will have time to think about whether a game was worth more than a relationship.