ralfgarnett Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 50 years old and separated after 20 years with my wife, I often think if we don't work out will I ever meet anyone else and the answer keeps coming back that I don't think I could ever be bothered getting involved with anyone ever again, I know its early days on the rocky road but I honestly cannot see myself doing this again, is it me or does anyone else feel / think the same ?.
welshbambi Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 I feel the same some days but honestly I am trying not to think about it right now. With my frame of mind at the moment I am no good to anyone - when I decide to get back out there, I want to be at my best! So that means exercise, good food, spending my time not passing the time. I am aiming for a point where meeting someone is an enhancement to my life, not a necessity. 50 is not too late Ralf! Age is a frame of mind. I think right now you are obviously still very raw and very much getting over the split. You were together a long time and of course it will take time to deal with it. I know you are doing things to look after yourself, just keep doing that for now. Focus on yourself, small things. If you try to look at the bigger picture too soon it will just be overwhelming. So congratulate yourself on your small wins. If you got out of bed at a decent hour, give yourself a mental pat on the back. If you managed to go see an old friend, that's a huge thing and a step in reclaiming your own life without needing someone else. You are doing wonderfully - don't let the bad bits cloud the good work you have already done for your recovery.
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