dyna85 Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 I don't think you're disliked by her. I think she's probably affected by your presence on her page and wants it off, to move on. I wouldn't read too much further into this. Forget about why she still has her other exes. Obviously, you are affecting her more than them right now, since it's all so fresh. They're probably more in her peripheral vision. I think it's best she's no longer on your page either and you should avoid looking her up, as this essentially breaks the nc rule, and keeping nc is critical to healing. 1
EgoJoe Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 If she cared about what you liked or wanted you would still be together and on Facebook. Grab your nuts, gather your self respect and move on now. She did you a favor. You don't see it yet but you will someday. 1
saz123 Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Maybe, yeah I know I get that and I get that we're exes, but she still has all of her others exes (4 of them) added. If I had talked to her I could see why she would maybe think oh hes annoying me I;ll delete him, but I haven't. Just seems a little strange I guess. How long were you guys together for? Break-ups are hard man, and it's obvious you really cared about her. But you also appear to care a lot about what people think of you. That's good, but don't go over the top. She's deleted you off of Facebook, unfollowed you off of Insta. To be honest the only way you'll know why she did it is by asking her yourself (which isn't a good idea). Join the gym, play some sports, don't fret. Enjoy life. 1
Satu Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 It's just confusing. I don't like to be disliked Maybe its because she doesn't want to feed your obsession.
Author Jimmyjackson Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 I don't think you're disliked by her. I think she's probably affected by your presence on her page and wants it off, to move on. I wouldn't read too much further into this. Forget about why she still has her other exes. Obviously, you are affecting her more than them right now, since it's all so fresh. They're probably more in her peripheral vision. I think it's best she's no longer on your page either and you should avoid looking her up, as this essentially breaks the nc rule, and keeping nc is critical to healing. Yeah I know, you're right in everything you just said, I agree. Guess it's just strange knowing an ex you were once with actually wants nothing to do with you, especially when you did nothing wrong and were a big part of their life at some stage.
Author Jimmyjackson Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 How long were you guys together for? Break-ups are hard man, and it's obvious you really cared about her. But you also appear to care a lot about what people think of you. That's good, but don't go over the top. She's deleted you off of Facebook, unfollowed you off of Insta. To be honest the only way you'll know why she did it is by asking her yourself (which isn't a good idea). Join the gym, play some sports, don't fret. Enjoy life. Nice post, just got back from the gym actually and 9 months we were together.
Author Jimmyjackson Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 Maybe its because she doesn't want to feed your obsession. I;m not obsessed, it's just thrown me off a little. Even IF I was, how would she know anyway ?
saz123 Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Nice post, just got back from the gym actually and 9 months we were together. Me too. The gym is great. But I just ate a huge McDonald's so my gym trip was totally not worth it. 9 months is a long time... It's ok to be pissed at why she removed you as a friend and unfollowed you, but in all honesty it just isn't worth the stress.
Simon Phoenix Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 I;m not obsessed, it's just thrown me off a little. Even IF I was, how would she know anyway ? She assumes you are because she knows you were heartbroken when you broke up. Either way, the fact that you are wasting this much energy and emotion on this isn't healthy. This is why you need to block people. You've been monitoring her this whole time and now you are just emoting about something that doesn't matter to your recover that you shouldn't have been aware of had you actually been in No Contact. 2
Author Jimmyjackson Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 Me too. The gym is great. But I just ate a huge McDonald's so my gym trip was totally not worth it. 9 months is a long time... It's ok to be pissed at why she removed you as a friend and unfollowed you, but in all honesty it just isn't worth the stress. Haha, depends if you're bulking I guess... Yeah it is, like I said before just the timing of it seems a little strange, not like I did anything to provoke it. I'll try my best to stop thinking about it
Satu Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Haha, depends if you're bulking I guess... Yeah it is, like I said before just the timing of it seems a little strange, not like I did anything to provoke it. I'll try my best to stop thinking about it You should, because you've got a good brain there that could be applied to making your life more rewarding. 1
saz123 Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Haha, depends if you're bulking I guess... Yeah it is, like I said before just the timing of it seems a little strange, not like I did anything to provoke it. I'll try my best to stop thinking about it From my POV as a girl, I get annoyed with people who constantly update their social media, like all the time, daily. So if you're one for posting all the time on your social media then that could be why! And you're her ex. But you're the "fresh" ex, you're recent. So she probably has more of a reason to remove you.
Author Jimmyjackson Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 From my POV as a girl, I get annoyed with people who constantly update their social media, like all the time, daily. So if you're one for posting all the time on your social media then that could be why! And you're her ex. But you're the "fresh" ex, you're recent. So she probably has more of a reason to remove you. Maybe yeah, and I don't post much at all to be honest, rarely update my status. Just the odd profile picture change here and there..
saz123 Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Maybe yeah, and I don't post much at all to be honest, rarely update my status. Just the odd profile picture change here and there.. I will still go with you're the fresh ex thing and thats why she removed you. Not an insult really she did you a favour.
Author Jimmyjackson Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 I will still go with you're the fresh ex thing and thats why she removed you. Not an insult really she did you a favour. Potentially yeah, just not something she has done in the past, puzzled as to why she would to me I guess.
jezzika Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Did you ever 'like' any of her status updates and/or pics or comment on anything?
Author Jimmyjackson Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 Did you ever 'like' any of her status updates and/or pics or comment on anything? Nope, nothing at all. Haven't spoken to her in around 10 weeks either
Author Jimmyjackson Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 This girl I've been talking to seems to have blown me off too, we were supposed to be going on a date and now she's gone all cold all of a sudden. Seems to be the night for odd behaviour.
Simon Phoenix Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 This girl I've been talking to seems to have blown me off too, we were supposed to be going on a date and now she's gone all cold all of a sudden. Seems to be the night for odd behaviour. Maybe she senses that your mind and focus is elsewhere. Either way, maybe dating isn't what you should be doing right now.
Author Jimmyjackson Posted January 9, 2015 Author Posted January 9, 2015 Maybe she senses that your mind and focus is elsewhere. Either way, maybe dating isn't what you should be doing right now. No I never gave her any indication of it, she just got out of a relationship a month ago...maybe that's it?
Simon Phoenix Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 No I never gave her any indication of it, she just got out of a relationship a month ago...maybe that's it? Women have a sixth sense when it comes to things like that. Just because you feel you haven't given signs of it doesn't mean that signs weren't given and received. I'm guessing you aren't as much of a closed book as you think you are when it comes to that. That's not a big deal, many people aren't, but you need to really stop worrying about what other people are doing and fix what you can control, which is yourself. You are overthinking this thing with your ex (which was caused by you unnecessarily monitoring what she was doing) and you are overthinking things with this new girl. You need to relax, decompress, and stop trying to figure out what other people are doing. That's one of the biggest wastes of time on the planet.
Author Jimmyjackson Posted January 9, 2015 Author Posted January 9, 2015 Women have a sixth sense when it comes to things like that. Just because you feel you haven't given signs of it doesn't mean that signs weren't given and received. I'm guessing you aren't as much of a closed book as you think you are when it comes to that. That's not a big deal, many people aren't, but you need to really stop worrying about what other people are doing and fix what you can control, which is yourself. You are overthinking this thing with your ex (which was caused by you unnecessarily monitoring what she was doing) and you are overthinking things with this new girl. You need to relax, decompress, and stop trying to figure out what other people are doing. That's one of the biggest wastes of time on the planet. Hmm well we've only texted, could understand your point if we had seen each other in person already. Yeah I know I've always been a over thinker, I know I need to stop worrying I just asked on here because it was my first instinct to do so and wanted to know if anyone had any opinions on why and/or if they had been in the situation themselves.
Simon Phoenix Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 Hmm well we've only texted, could understand your point if we had seen each other in person already. Yeah I know I've always been a over thinker, I know I need to stop worrying I just asked on here because it was my first instinct to do so and wanted to know if anyone had any opinions on why and/or if they had been in the situation themselves. They can still sense it man. Don't ask me how, but they can. Either way, relax. Stop trying to solve puzzles and create puzzles and just live your life. Like I said, even if someone knew exactly what your ex was thinking (we don't), it's not like you can actually do anything with that information. In fact, knowing what they are thinking might be worse, because then you'll start to try to "solve" the problem, which is a surefire recipe for disaster. It's time to let go of your ex completely, which means stop monitoring her Facebook and block it already. And before you start dating other girls, you need to recover quite a bit from your relationship. Right now you are plugging leaks with chewed bubble gum, which does nothing but spring more leaks.
Satu Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 They can still sense it man. Don't ask me how, but they can. Either way, relax. Stop trying to solve puzzles and create puzzles and just live your life. Like I said, even if someone knew exactly what your ex was thinking (we don't), it's not like you can actually do anything with that information. In fact, knowing what they are thinking might be worse, because then you'll start to try to "solve" the problem, which is a surefire recipe for disaster. It's time to let go of your ex completely, which means stop monitoring her Facebook and block it already. And before you start dating other girls, you need to recover quite a bit from your relationship. Right now you are plugging leaks with chewed bubble gum, which does nothing but spring more leaks. He's trying to solve a jigsaw puzzle that when completed, depicts lots of jigsaw puzzle pieces. 1
Holmes85 Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 Been broken up with my ex 4 months, NC for about 10 weeks...noticed today she has deleted me off Facebook randomly, any ideas why she might do this ? seems a little random... Jimmyjackson, Don't worry about Facebook, instagram or any other social websites where she had you added, those are just websites, at any point with a click of a button she can add you back there. She deleted you from facebook, it's not like she deleted you from exsistance. If you are thinking that she's trying to move on, this & that, don't. In fact sit back and relax, if you treated her right, you would definitely hear from her again. If you are thinking about she's going to forget you just by deleting you, don't worry she won't, man people still remember there kindergarten teachers, who have you so easily forgotten throughout your life? None. Let her do her thing, you do yours. The more confident you are in doing your own thing, the more attraction it's going to cause, either from her or from someone whose better than her.
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