juanito14 Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Sorry for the length. My ex and I started dating in May. Fast forward to November and she broke up with me, and her reasoning was it wasn't fair to me to be in a relationship with someone who could never hangout and be a real girlfriend. I told her I was understanding and I knew she had school work and her parents are very hard on her and like to know where she always is. BTW she is 25 years old and her parents still forbid her to have a boyfriend. She said the stress of having to live a double life and hide me from them was stressing her out too. We got back together after though and things were good until the week before christmas. She told me she was breaking up with me again and how it was nothing I did, but how she couldnt handle the stress of everything. We talked about it in person, which was a struggle cause she was trying to breakup with me over text and avoid face to face conversation. During the talk she was crying a lot and could tell she did feel bad, said she wished it could be different but it was the cards she was dealt. We agreed to still be in each others lives though. What she said to me word for word "I know Im not ur girlfriend anymore but Im still ur baby. It's not like I'm gonna be hooking up with anyone else and when we do hang out you can still treat me like ur girlfriend" I should include that her parents left on a month long cruise the day after christmas so she would finally have time to hang out. We hung out the night that we had the talk, which was two days after xmas, she came over drunk for 10 min to open the gifts she woulda gotten from me, just to see what they were and told me she wanted to go back home. We hung out the next night though, got sushi and then frozen yogurt and night and when she dropped me off she told me she didn't want me to leave so we went out for another hour driving around. The part that confuses me is we hung out the day before new years eve, nothing special, she came over we watched football and then returned her gifts, and she told me she felt bad cause she knew she couldn't hangout with me at midnight cause she would be with her bro, but she would hang out with me during the day. The next day comes and when I get off work I ask her if she would like to hang out and she says she just wants to be alone. So I leave her alone till around 8pm that night and tell her how thankful I was she was in my life and how great she made 2014 for me. You know the text you send right before the new year, and she sent me back a very similar one. She goes out, and at midnight she sends me two snapchats saying Happy new year baby and New Years kiss. Later that night before she went to bed she told me she couldn't wait to give me a new years kiss. So the next day comes and I ask if she would like to hang out and she says no Im staying home and watching football with my bro. I leave her alone for the day and enjoy it with my family, and then the next day comes and I ask if she would like to hang out and she tells me no Im going to santa monica with my bro and we'll prob go to a bar to watch the football game, so I leave her alone. Then the next day comes and I ask if she would like to hang out and she goes off. Saying "wow everyday you've asked me to hang out. Its too much I can't do it. I want to be in your life when you need me but I can't do this" Like within 4 days she changed. I left her alone for the rest of the day, until the next day came. Originally I was gonna wait till she texted me, but I noticed she finally changed the Facebook relationship status. Not a big deal, except she told me once she's not the type to do that so I knew something was up. I texted her asking if she wants me to distance myself completely from her and she said yes. Then went on about how Im clingy and dramatic and she wants me to leave her alone. My friend who know her well too told me yesterday that she's a little crazy, and she's the kind of girl that prefers to be treated like ****. Like that keeps her interested, but Im not that kinda guy. She made me feel like no matter what I did it was wrong and started fights about everything. I don't understand if I was being clingy though or if she was just using it as an excuse to finally end things. I laughed a little when she called me dramatic cause that was all her this entire relationship.
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