Ex-girlfriend turned up as teacher at my university course! What do I do?

[krustykat]

An ex-girlfriend of mine has been giving me hell! First year at university, like an idiot I fell completely infatuated with this girl. We had a so-called 'relationship' that last for about two months. Despite me being very patient (and naive) she never gave me a damn thing. I started having severe doubts, and so did she. Then one day she broke it off. Because SHE was the one who broke it off, for the next few years she acted like she was some kind of princess and that I was some kind of crazy ex-boyfriend. The really weird thing was her constant attempts to make us 'friends'. What on earth was she on about? Yes, I admit that I couldn't get rid of the feelings I had for her. That was the really frustrating part! I tried other relationships but I just couldn't trust any woman properly after 'her'.

 

After I finished my first university degree, I moved cities to start another degree and to get away from 'her'. Then, I just couldn't believe it - she moved to my new town and turned up at my new university. And not just once, but twice. The first time I ran into her again (and remember, I was the one who moved to the new town first!) she carried on to me about 'her boyfriend'. It didn't seem to occur to her that I had no desire to 'get back together' - I just wanted this whole stupid saga to be over and done with. I should have just told her this, I suppose, but I was too surprised to see her there and just made my excuses and walked off.

 

Well, I didn't see her around the campus again for a while. But then, I enrolled for one of my new courses and she turned up again. Only this time, she wasn't a student, she was the teacher for the course! I have to take this course because it is compulsory. I've really had enough of this girl. But I can't just tell her to go away because she is too stubborn and the faculty will take her side because she is a staff member and I'm just a student.

What should I do?

[AndrewJ]

Fatal attraction

 

Thats a tough on brother.

 

Just try to see her as the teacher nothing more.

[greenhorn]

God, I can't imagine this..typical hollywood movie in making.Only I wish I was in your place

[opaleye]

Yeah just try to keep it completely teacher-student. You don't really have to have any contact with her unless its a small class but if its a big lecture then hardly any students actually talk one-on-one with the teacher. And if she makes a deal of it or does anything to hinder you in any way then you can always take it to the advocacy office. She has to be professional so if she isn't then don't let her get away with it. How totally weird for you!!

[amytct]

Is the course offered another semester with a different instructor? Also, I think I would go to your advisor or the department head and just explain to them that you and the instructor of the course were once in a relationship and you didn't think it would be appropriate to be in her class given your past association.