Pjcj42 Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Recently got dumped by long term girlfriend. the guy she is dating now works with us and is universally hated at work and has such a temper with co-workers he was required to take anger management classes to continue to work.we were told he suffers from rage episodes. Yet she left me to be with him?i know it's her problem but I worry abot her safety. She won't listen and I'm afraid she's waking into an abusive relationship.i would love to be back with her but I know that won't happen. What can you do to help her see him for what he is. She won't listen to my because it Sounds like jealousy.
Satu Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Your concern is misplaced. Care about yourself by not caring about her. 2
Danda Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Sounds like jealousy because it is jealousy, although you might not even realize it. Just because someone shouts and swears and slams doors (or whatever) when they're pissed, doesn't mean they're physically abusive, and if he's taking the anger management classes seriously, then maybe he's getting better at coping with his anger when he feels it. I mean it's not like he's smashed a computer or punched out a coworker, else he'd be fired at best and in jail at worst. It's also none of your business, how their relationship is going. She is a grown-ass woman and makes her own choices in life. Are you also making sure she wears a seat belt and doesn't eat too much junk food, or are you only "concerned" for her well-being when it comes to the new man in her life. Come on now. Are you able to get another job? No Contact is super important for healing and moving on, but No Contact won't be possible so long as you all see each other at work. If you didn't all work together then you wouldn't even know about this guy and wouldn't be obsessing over it. My last ex, we were together for 3+ years. We worked together. Will never make that mistake again lol. He cheated on me with one of our coworkers and then less than two weeks after we broke up, they were officially dating. I got another job and left. 1
Author Pjcj42 Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 I like your response and I do see it know I am jealous. Their relationship is none of my business. 1
Satu Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 I like your response and I do see it know I am jealous. Their relationship is none of my business. It's a saying that everybody knows: "The truth will set you free." It needs to be made more specific, though: "The truth about you will set you free." Freedom lies in understanding the self.
Assada Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Recently got dumped by long term girlfriend. the guy she is dating now works with us and is universally hated at work and has such a temper with co-workers he was required to take anger management classes to continue to work.we were told he suffers from rage episodes. Yet she left me to be with him?i know it's her problem but I worry abot her safety. She won't listen and I'm afraid she's waking into an abusive relationship.i would love to be back with her but I know that won't happen. What can you do to help her see him for what he is. She won't listen to my because it Sounds like jealousy. I'm on my WHITE horse and I'm ready to save you honey!!! I'm the best. You cant make decisions, poor babygirl, I'll SAVE YOU!!!
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