Triumph2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 So I've been dating my girlfriend for 5 months now. Things are going great... Here's the issues I recently found her old dating apps and on there she claims to be bisexual. When I found this out I was in complete shock because I would have never suspected. When I asked her about the subject (or along the lines of being with a woman, in a random conversation she said "she would never be or do anything with a woman") Next about a month ago I hoped on her phone for something and found a bunch of lesbian porn that she looks at, specifically massage lesbian porn... In fact she recently got a job at a massage spot. Just some concerns here... Our sex life is great to be honest... We enjoy each others company and we spend the night with each other frequently. Should I be worried about anything? She's going to start getting free/discount massages at her work... And it kinda bothers me
preraph Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Wow. I don't get why she would have a problem just admitting it to you. Unless you've shown any degree of homophobia in the past, but then why would she be with you if that were the case. Maybe she's completely in the closet about it or maybe she was bicurious and tried it and didn't like it and isn't bi anymore.
Danda Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Some guys don't have very classy responses to finding out their girlfriend or the girl they're even just dating is bisexual. I think it's wrong to lie and such, but I can also see why she would. I think the most common reaction is jumping to conclusions and pushing for a FFM threesome, which just sort of makes a woman's bisexuality out to be some sort of fetish thing, and also implies that there is nothing possibly intimate beyond 'bumpin uglies' between two women when they make love. I mean a guy knows his girlfriend is into guys, but he doesn't suggest inviting another hot guy over to join them in the bedroom. But finds out his girlfriend is bi and suddenly it's like lets go catch another woman and bring her home. Mostly for those reasons, I think bisexual women often feel that their sexuality towards other women is best kept set apart and kept as special, without any pushy, horny guys trying to shove their way into the mix and make it feel somehow almost dehumanized. Again, not saying it's okay to lie about **** to your SO, but I wouldn't be at all shocked if many guys are with a bisexual gal and have no idea. 3
Assada Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Seems like you have a lot of insecurities if you let that bother you. BTW Most women watch lesbian porn. - Just to let you know It also doesnt have anything with them being bisexual
Diezel Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 I'd want to meet her friends and her clients. You know, for science and great justice.
HVW_Mark Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Yeh, +1 to what Assada says, but it does sound like this girl goes a little further. Weird she didn't mention it. I think give her time, she needs to know you're ok with it.
Moy Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 What if your partner was 100% hetero and liked hooking up with members of the opposite sex? How would you see the situation then? Eatin's cheatin' in my book! Whatever floats your boat, regardless of your sexuality, go for it. I just prefer a bit of monagamy in my relationships.
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