Paige712 Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Hi guys my first thread hehe. I'm currently looking for someone who is interested in a long term relationship but the issues is where can you really look? I've tried online but most guys are either too long distanced or only interested in one thing. Same with pubs there is a near nil percent chance I'll find someone looking for the same things. Most just want sex regardless of what they say unfortunetly. But where else can you go?
Gaeta Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Anywhere from rock-climbing group to Church group. You can also tell everyone you know, friends, family, co-workers that you are looking and if ever they think of someone you're open to meet with them. 1
thecrucible Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Hey I know how you feel. I get that a lot too. Maybe you can focus on getting to know the guy as a person and see how he responds? Check to see what he asks about you, and see if he's prepared not to rush things into the bedroom. Although I do want a relationship, I try to focus on just having fun with the guy, flirt a little, and see if he makes an effort to court me. I don't tell him I want a relationship as men generally know all women want relationships. They just have to think that it's their idea - they might bail as soon as they feel that you have any kind of agenda or already see them as your boyfriend before you've really got to know them. You could also read some advice so you can figure out how to spot the 'no hopers' and guys who are just after one thing. Be wary of guys who big themselves up = all mouth, no trousers. 1
Author Paige712 Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 Hey I know how you feel. I get that a lot too. Maybe you can focus on getting to know the guy as a person and see how he responds? Check to see what he asks about you, and see if he's prepared not to rush things into the bedroom. Although I do want a relationship, I try to focus on just having fun with the guy, flirt a little, and see if he makes an effort to court me. I don't tell him I want a relationship as men generally know all women want relationships. They just have to think that it's their idea - they might bail as soon as they feel that you have any kind of agenda or already see them as your boyfriend before you've really got to know them. You could also read some advice so you can figure out how to spot the 'no hopers' and guys who are just after one thing. Be wary of guys who big themselves up = all mouth, no trousers. Thank you hunni I'll definately take your advice on hand . Yeah I know whenever they get the idea I'm looking for something more they tend to bail and it's so frustrating! Obviously not all guys are like that of course but most in the pub are more often than not.
YesFastPants Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Welcome to the forums, I'm also new myself! I always found any place with mutual interests is the best place, anything you can share a hobby with another person. Are you from the United Kingdom by chance? I have some friends there that might know some good areas or places.
Author Paige712 Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 Welcome to the forums, I'm also new myself! I always found any place with mutual interests is the best place, anything you can share a hobby with another person. Are you from the United Kingdom by chance? I have some friends there that might know some good areas or places. Hehe thank you, happy to be here . I'm Australian I'm afraid, bit of a bummer.
YesFastPants Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Oh! No problem, down under is pretty groovy too. You helped me out in my last thread so you seem really cool and I appreciated it. I hope we could chat sometime! Bars or pubs are cool places, sometimes but yeah there can be real creepers! But hobbies are the most important.
youknow Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 I go to pubs, Clubs, Bars also a bit of online dating ...I'm just a genuine guy, so don't give up hope.....they are out there
SomeDude16 Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 I'd say try and stay away from clubs and pubs if you're looking for something long term. As mentioned before I think the best place is in a shared interest group or something similar. Find a guy that you are intrested in and interact with him to gauge his interest and build a relationship. If you like the person you have gotten to know over a few group activities ask him out. Or he may ask you out. From there date and see where it goes. The shared interest group gives you constancy, being able to gauge the guy over time, aw well as a connection/shared intrest. Both important head starts in building a relationship. Just my opinion as a guy...
Assada Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 This is such a weird question. How do you know that you want a long term relationship with a guy, if its not going to be a quality relationship. Here are some analogies. I want to take a trip from Los Angeles to New York. I can take a crappy mini-bus with no seats that break down all the time. - I'll still get to New York, but will I be happy? No OK, I can Take an all inclusive, luxury jet, and it stops in Chicago. Will I be in New York? No. But that was a quality trip, which I could have missed out on. Searching for something "Longterm" is foolish. You never know how things are going to turn out. You just have to be with someone, until it becomes "longterm". But trying to find that in the beginining is putting the cart before the horse
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