YesFastPants Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Heya, folks! I just had an issue I wanted to get some perspective from the friendly folks here. So a year ago I had a friendship with a girl I loved, I told her I had feelings for her, long story short, it didn't work out and we're not talking. It's been a year since that happened and it still hurts after No Contact. Around Thanksgiving at work I met a girl who was super friendly and funny and awesome, pretty quickly I took a liking to her. So around Christmas I was lucky enough to pick her for Secret Santa and I gave her an awesome little cat toy, candy, and a card that had my number in it if she ever wanted to go out some time. Just super laid back! Fast forward to today, I have not heard anything back from you, I messaged her on Facebook to casually ask how were holidays but got nothing back. We still work together and I tried talking to her but it's been kinda busy, however she is still super friendly and talkative at work. Should I let this go and assume she's not interested or keep pursuing it? Maybe I'm just misinterpreting her kindness at work for affection that's not there. Thank you so much everyone for even reading this.
Gaeta Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Should I let this go and assume she's not interested or keep pursuing it? Maybe I'm just misinterpreting her kindness at work for affection that's not there. No she is not interested and you stop pursuing this immediately and go back to being casual-friendly. Life goes on as it were. 1
Omei Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Your gift was really cute if she was interested by now she would of responded to that by now. Sorry shes not.
Satu Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Just let it rest where it is. There will be other opportunities.
thecrucible Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 It sounds like she is trying to keep things professional. Maybe she is super friendly to lots of people. I don't blame you for being drawn in by it . Since she is still being really friendly to you, that's a good thing because it means she isn't being immature about it by freezing you out. You never know, you may get a really good friend from this and she might have single friends Just put it down to experience. It might help you to not interpret a relationship which doesn't work out as a failure (unless I'm overthinking what you said in your initial post). Things didn't work out with that girl you liked before but don't feel bad about it. It happens to all of us.
Paige712 Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Agree with the above posters. She doesn't seem interested so just let bygones be bygones.
Author YesFastPants Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 Hey, thank you everyone for the responses, it means the world to me.... I have friends, a lot I can talk to, it's just, really hard when it comes to relationships, you know? I feel more comfortable discussing it with you guys. I just don't want to hurt anyone or weird anyone out, so if it really sounds like she's not interested, then I should move on before things get awkward or uncomfortable. I feel kinda silly about it, I guess I still take rejections kinda hard. Thank you all. 3
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