Pjcj42 Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 I can't seem to stop driving by her house. I see the new bf parked in the same spot I parked in using the time schedule and routine we worked out. It makes me feel so empty like I was so easily replaced. And she still has the nerve to text me to ask how I'm doing.i don't text back but it makes me feel so helpless.
HurtGator Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 I can't seem to stop driving by her house. I see the new bf parked in the same spot I parked in using the time schedule and routine we worked out. It makes me feel so empty like I was so easily replaced. And she still has the nerve to text me to ask how I'm doing.i don't text back but it makes me feel so helpless. Well, people here are gong to tell you to stop driving by her house. What happens if she happens to be outside? It will make you look weak. Why did you guys break up?
Ieris Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Don't do that! They don't care, you're only hurting yourself. In some way it is good for you to see that she has moved so now you focus on moving on. I know it's horrible feeling like you have been replaced but she just wasn't the girl for you x
Light Breeze Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Dude, stop... You're torturing yourself.. Instead of driving by her house you need to concentrate on your life. Go out with friends, learn to play the flute or something. Feeding your addiction to her would be pretty self destructive. If it'll help you, delete her number and block calls/text. She's sending you breadcrumbs to ease gulit so she could cuddle with her BF in peace. Ignore, delete, block go NC if you want this to stop.
Author Pjcj42 Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 She broke up because she said I wasn't available all the time.i know better than to go there. Sometimes I think I go to not see his car hoping she has broken up with Jim and I have another chance i know her text are bread crumbs because they only come when she's at work and not with him.i don't text backmight just can't seem to get my life going again.i don't have the chance to meet people and I'm very introverted
Light Breeze Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 .i don't have the chance to meet people and I'm very introverted Then make an effort to change. One of the advice given to dumpees is go work on yourself. Start with contacting your friends or acquaintances ask them to hangout. Join a gym, kickboxing class, yoga, or something similar, you'll meet lots of people there. Find something that intrigues you and go for it. Moping alone by your lonesome would just lead you to depression.
HurtGator Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 She broke up because she said I wasn't available all the time.i know better than to go there. Sometimes I think I go to not see his car hoping she has broken up with Jim and I have another chance i know her text are bread crumbs because they only come when she's at work and not with him.i don't text backmight just can't seem to get my life going again.i don't have the chance to meet people and I'm very introverted How often did you guys see each other?
Author Pjcj42 Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 Almost every other day we had lunch our dinner. Work the same day all day once a week I think she had a history with this guy and I was the in between them getting back together. She said something strange that I remember that she wanted to try harder with this time when she textedme talking about her new bf.
HurtGator Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Almost every other day we had lunch our dinner. Work the same day all day once a week I think she had a history with this guy and I was the in between them getting back together. She said something strange that I remember that she wanted to try harder with this time when she textedme talking about her new bf. That's what I thought. You already spent a lot of time together... so she was giving you BS about not giving her enough attention. I've learned that it is almost always someone else in the picture when they give you BS reasons for breaking up. You should be very lucky you are done with her.
chick0 Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Pjcj42, although we do say it's best to stop driving past her house, you'll only do it in your own time...Its good to have validation, but then it gets to the point, which is at what point is too much validation... Im going through something very similar to you and understand what you mean... im going to try what others have given as advice... and i guess you could look at tit this way...if you do spend more of your time going to the gym or doing sport or something to better yourself, it can only be better for you rather than the time spent driving past her house - it will be more productive. Also think, if she did ever come back to you, she would see you as a better person, rather than if she did come back to you and asked what happened to you all this time we were apart and then you would be lying to her and urself then...Also if she never came back, atleast then you're a better person inside and out and you can be that better person for someone else - when you are ready to move on that is...
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