aggie382 Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 I downloaded it and all it did is used my pictures from FB. I had no real profile and all you do is look at pictures and go Yes or No to them. Maybe where you are it's considered a dating website but where I am from it's a hook-up app. I deleted it after 1 week. There is a profile that you can fill out. It's not a profile so much as a lot of space for you to put a narrative description of yourself and what you're looking for. My brother met his fiance on Tinder. People use it for different things. 1
Leigh 87 Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 It means that the guy doesn't think you are good enough to date, but you are palatable enough to have sex with. They are creeps in other words who are willing to have sex with women whom they think lowly of. 3
NJ123 Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 It means that the guy doesn't think you are good enough to date, but you are palatable enough to have sex with. They are creeps in other words who are willing to have sex with women whom they think lowly of. But like I asked before. What if it's a woman that does it? Happened to me about a year ago. She invited me to her place, but I declined. What are your thoughts on what her intentions were? She did state she wanted to take it slow with me because we got along really well. But who knows. 1
aggie382 Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 It means that the guy doesn't think you are good enough to date, but you are palatable enough to have sex with. No, a guy who asks for this isn't looking to date anyone. It has nothing to do with the quality of the woman. He'd do this to the most quality woman, because all he's interested in is sex. 2
preraph Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Just want sex. Don't go anywhere with them once you know that. 1
MissBee Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 What if it's a woman that invites you to her house on a first date? This happened to me through OLD, but I turned her down due to different circumstances at the time, but is it likely she just wanted meaningless sex from me? My ex boyfriend told me that a woman online invited him over for their first date and she indeed wanted sex....he obliged but didn't bother to date her after . 2
NJ123 Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 My ex boyfriend told me that a woman online invited him over for their first date and she indeed wanted sex....he obliged but didn't bother to date her after . True. This woman did admit to me I remember that she wanted sex pretty much. But she seemed to really like me though. Think she wanted a FWB type of thing with me possibly if I were to guess. When I turned her down, she still tried talking to me. Saying things like make sure you get your sleep. Saying that she cared about me. Seems she had strong feelings for me without even meeting me. 1
FitChick Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 If this has only happened since you bleached your hair, maybe dye it light brown to see if you get a better response. If not, go back to brunette! If you've only been on free sites, pay for one month on a subscription site, making a note on your calendar when to cancel before they automatically renew. 1
PogoStick Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 I usually like to meet for a beer. Plus a couple drinks seem to loosen up conversation for both sides. But it's not just men. A woman invited me over to her place on Halloween to hand out candy as a first date. I brought over some rice and chicken and cooked a simple meal in her kitchen. Then she invited me over a second time and the clothes came off. WOOO! 1
Els Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Why? I've heard plenty of horror stories from best friends off eharmony, match, even Christian mingle lol! I just want to know why this is the worst site? AFAIK it is because Tinder's business strategy is specifically to provide a fast-food-chain equivalent of dating. Caveat, I haven't used it (or any OLD sites even), but I've been following news in the startup world and that appears to be the general consensus. Anyway, if something isn't working for you, perhaps try other avenues? I've never had a first date at home. 1
Author Country_Girl Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 Well I did land 1 real date on Tinder, we are going out for sushi on Friday. But yeah, I've gotten about 4 stay at home invites so far from guys in the last week. I just move on from those, it's just a little disappointing. In my opinion, technology has ruined the dating scene. It's rare to get a "real" date and makes people lazy. No more phone calls, texts are the norm? Is anyone fresh into a relationship, and you both talk on the phone for hours? With my exes, we'd have 2-4 hour phone conversations all the time. Do people still do this? 1
Gaeta Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Is anyone fresh into a relationship, and you both talk on the phone for hours? With my exes, we'd have 2-4 hour phone conversations all the time. Do people still do this? I prefer being called instead of being texted BUT I don't have time to talk for hours on the phone, I like to touch base (5-10 mins) on the phone then keep all the interesting conversations for face to face. 2
Els Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 In my opinion, technology has ruined the dating scene. With my exes, we'd have 2-4 hour phone conversations all the time. Do people still do this? You do realize that phones ARE technology, right? My guy and I would do this, but at that time we were LD, so there was no other way to have those conversations. If you live near each other, I don't see why you would choose to spend the 2-4 hours on the phone instead of talking face to face. In same-town relationships I typically use the phone just to arrange when to meet up, or short conversations. 2
Author Country_Girl Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 You do realize that phones ARE technology, right? My guy and I would do this, but at that time we were LD, so there was no other way to have those conversations. If you live near each other, I don't see why you would choose to spend the 2-4 hours on the phone instead of talking face to face. In same-town relationships I typically use the phone just to arrange when to meet up, or short conversations. Lol, well I should have said "expanded" technology. Eh, good point, both exes were LD. Guess we would have saved it for in person had there not been so many miles between us. I think we connected better as a result of these long phone calls, I miss having that kind of connection, it was nice. 2
Els Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Lol, well I should have said "expanded" technology. Eh, good point, both exes were LD. Guess we would have saved it for in person had there not been so many miles between us. I think we connected better as a result of these long phone calls, I miss having that kind of connection, it was nice. Ah, yeah, there's definitely something to be said for having a mental/emotional connection that develops before the physical. You can have that from an in-town relationship too, it's just kinda 'enforced' when you're LD... But if such a connection is what you desire, then even MORE reason not to use Tinder. You're really unlikely to find like-minded people on that platform. Doesn't Tinder encourage people to accept or decline based solely on pictures? 1
Author Country_Girl Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 Ah, yeah, there's definitely something to be said for having a mental/emotional connection that develops before the physical. You can have that from an in-town relationship too, it's just kinda 'enforced' when you're LD... But if such a connection is what you desire, then even MORE reason not to use Tinder. You're really unlikely to find like-minded people on that platform. Doesn't Tinder encourage people to accept or decline based solely on pictures? Yeah, it's highly superficial. I guess I'm just trying something new. I just want it all this time, I want the full on mental and physical attraction. I've dated guys before that I wouldn't initially be attracted to, but their sense of humor or wittiness attracted me. I went on a date a few weeks ago, with someone I wasn't really attracted to. He was by far not unattractive, but not my type? He had a beard, and not to sound too superficial, I just don't like them. I like a little scruff and goatees, but really don't care for beards at all. We got along well and had this mental connection and were similar in so many ways, but there just was no chemistry. I didn't feel any sexual attraction at all. I felt really bad by the end of the date, as he was really into me, but I could not force that connection, even though I tried. Hopefully my date works out on Friday. This guy is what most would say is average in looks, but I find him very attractive. And even though Tinder is based on looks alone, it's still subjective. If I see pics at the gym and mirror shirtless selfies I automatically click "nope" because it's clear what those guys are looking for. 3
Rejected Rosebud Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Why? I've heard plenty of horror stories from best friends off eharmony, match, even Christian mingle lol! I just want to know why this is the worst site?You shouldn't even pay any attention to the guys who suggest their place for a first date unless you want to have sex with them upon meeting them. I think they're being clear about what they're after, if that's not what you want then just forget about them and move on. If those guys were interested in exploring a relationship with you, they would not suggest this. A guy who thinks he might be interested in dating you will NOT suggest this!! 2
MissBee Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Well I did land 1 real date on Tinder, we are going out for sushi on Friday. But yeah, I've gotten about 4 stay at home invites so far from guys in the last week. I just move on from those, it's just a little disappointing. In my opinion, technology has ruined the dating scene. It's rare to get a "real" date and makes people lazy. No more phone calls, texts are the norm? Is anyone fresh into a relationship, and you both talk on the phone for hours? With my exes, we'd have 2-4 hour phone conversations all the time. Do people still do this? I think some things are harder to find but you have control over what you will and won't accept. For me, I've OLD and basically I don't do the incessant texter thing who doesn't call. I only end up going out with men who actually call me and we can talk on the phone and have decent conversation (doesn't need to be for hours though, but I do like to have a voice conversation with someone and get a feel for them and how we banter and stuff before going out). I also want to hear a man's voice, I mean some voices are sexy and others are annoying, you gotta know lol. That's my preference and I've been able to find it. It's also on my profile as well, that I'm old-fashioned about getting to know someone and prefer a man who will call me over one who will only text. I simply eliminate the texters after letting them know I don't like that for getting to know someone. 1
Author Country_Girl Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 I think some things are harder to find but you have control over what you will and won't accept. For me, I've OLD and basically I don't do the incessant texter thing who doesn't call. I only end up going out with men who actually call me and we can talk on the phone and have decent conversation. That's my preference and I've been able to find it. It's also on my profile as well, that I'm old-fashioned about getting to know someone and prefer a man who will call me over one who will only text. I simply eliminate the texters after letting them know I don't like that for getting to know someone. I like what you said there, and yes, ultimately we do have control about what we will and will not accept. That's a good point, maybe I will add that to my profile, that way it's known. Thank you! 2
orangetree Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 I would also never do that, it's just weird. Even a second date at home is weird to me. I had a guy too suggesting me for the second date to come to his place and he will cook for me. He was a really nice, decent guy and an absolute gentleman, I'm sure it wasn't all about sex. Still I think it's weird. I don't wanna go to a guy's house until I know him fairly well.
clevelander321 Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 (edited) I think there are some harsh realities when it comes to online dating. Yes, men like sex..No surprise..But often times the women willing to have sex, and come over, are not the type who you want to be seen in public with. Secondly, people seem to want to "date up", out of their league... If you are a guy and a 7-8 on the looks scale, the women online who are a 7-8 are hard to find, extremely picky, or serial daters.. So that leaves you with 20 3-5's to pick from. So how is this handled? You would ask each 3-5 if they want to come over. probably 5 out of the 20 will. To be fair, the women who are a 4-5 are not interested in guys who WOULD take them out who are also a 4-5. Edited January 8, 2015 by clevelander321 2
slizl Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Meet a his house for a first date??? Girls wouldn't even let me pick them up at their place before a first OLD date. I get it, but sheesh, you can't even be a gentleman nowadays even if you want to. 1
michellew Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 Not looking to hook up, stated in my bio. It's clearly stated. Guys from Tinder take this line about as serious as a girl who says, "I've never done this before" after having sex on the first date or a one night stand. lol 1
bachdude Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 Just curious if any Loveshacker's ever suggest a first date at home; be it rent a movie, order food, or both. Returning to OLD, and many guys have suggested this, I've declined. Going to a guys house sends the wrong messege does it not? I'm sure if things will work out there will be plenty of rainy day stay in movie nights, but why skip to that right away? Isn't the exciting part about a budding relationship- the newness, having fun together (activity)? I turned 33 today (Yay- happy b day to me!)...but wow has dating changed over the years. Kinda feel like the good days of dating are gone. Just my experience over the last 4 years. Maybe it's just an OLD thing, but I can't believe the number of people that want to meet at home for a date. I'm not superficial, but heck- let's grab a bit to eat then go play some mini golf or go bowling, I'm willing to pay my own way. Does anyone here actually suggest home dates? I just think that's awkward for a first meet. Maybe after date 5... The only time I could imagine this would be appropriate is if you already knew each other as friends and the relationship was progressing into something romantic. Otherwise, it is very strange.
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