Country_Girl Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Just curious if any Loveshacker's ever suggest a first date at home; be it rent a movie, order food, or both. Returning to OLD, and many guys have suggested this, I've declined. Going to a guys house sends the wrong messege does it not? I'm sure if things will work out there will be plenty of rainy day stay in movie nights, but why skip to that right away? Isn't the exciting part about a budding relationship- the newness, having fun together (activity)? I turned 33 today (Yay- happy b day to me!)...but wow has dating changed over the years. Kinda feel like the good days of dating are gone. Just my experience over the last 4 years. Maybe it's just an OLD thing, but I can't believe the number of people that want to meet at home for a date. I'm not superficial, but heck- let's grab a bit to eat then go play some mini golf or go bowling, I'm willing to pay my own way. Does anyone here actually suggest home dates? I just think that's awkward for a first meet. Maybe after date 5... 1
Eddy Street Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Yeah, I would never do that. It's a bit weird. Third date maybe... but first date? I'd be extremely weary. By the way, happy birth day!! 3
Author Country_Girl Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 Yeah, I would never do that. It's a bit weird. Third date maybe... but first date? I'd be extremely weary. By the way, happy birth day!! Thank You! :-) 3
Rydo Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 They want sex. It's that simple so unless you want a bit of meaningless sex or possibly murdered don't go to their house. 12
Gaeta Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 It's been offered to me more than once. I usually answered : If you cannot get off your couch, put clean pants on and drive 2km to properly meet me then forget about it. 11
Satu Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Say no. Meet somewhere nice that is also neutral territory. 2
michellew Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 I've been on tons of online dates and have never been invited to a man's house on the first date. These men probably just want to get laid. What type of men are you talking to? Are any of your photos on the sexy side? It could also be the particular site you are using. We need more info. 1
Rydo Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 I always invite a girl back to mine on a first date. However that's at the end once we have had a good time getting to know each other better. 1
MissBee Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 That in my experience means he's expecting sex or he's darn lazy and just looking for something casual 9/10 times. NO guy who was serious about me asked me to come to his house on the first date. I've also had to be wary of guys who do the first date out as something perfunctory but for the next date they immediately want to go to their house or mine and then slip into some just coming by for booty calls and forget real dating all together. Lesson learned. I'm not going to some strange guy's house on a first "date" . It sets the standard very low, not to mention can be dangerous. Once I'm used to you and like you and have gone out several times on neutral territory, sure, but as a first date any man even suggesting it is tacky,lazy or sleazy generally. 4
Gaeta Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 I've been on tons of online dates and have never been invited to a man's house on the first date. These men probably just want to get laid. What type of men are you talking to? Are any of your photos on the sexy side? It could also be the particular site you are using. We need more info. It has nothing to do with her profile or her pictures. I was not showing skin in any of my pictures and my profile was very sober and I got those invites. They're lazy pigs (pardon my French), too cheap to pay themselves an escort so they try online dating websites. 8
Author Country_Girl Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 I've been on tons of online dates and have never been invited to a man's house on the first date. These men probably just want to get laid. What type of men are you talking to? Are any of your photos on the sexy side? It could also be the particular site you are using. We need more info. No sexy photos, no bikini shots, noduck face no bathroom selfies or selfies at all for that matter. I'm a natural brunette, this trend started when I started dying my hair blonde. I like my hair blonde, it just sucks because I seem to attract (forgive my language) the "**** it and chuck it" crowd". Using Tinder... I know, enough said, but I have stated in my profile I am only looking for long term and click "like" for only those who state the same. I had the same experience with POF. 1
ascendotum Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Who does this...guys that want to get laid without wasting too much time & effort. You are using Tinder, it the equivalent of fastfood in the online dating. Guys looking for a hookup, it comes with the territory when you use Tinder, and its not quite representative of the whole dating scene, but yeh things have changed depending on how long you have not dated for. Just roll your eyes & shrug your shoulders and decline and move on the next one of your match ups. 2
michellew Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 No sexy photos, no bikini shots, noduck face no bathroom selfies or selfies at all for that matter. I'm a natural brunette, this trend started when I started dying my hair blonde. I like my hair blonde, it just sucks because I seem to attract (forgive my language) the "**** it and chuck it" crowd". Using Tinder... I know, enough said, but I have stated in my profile I am only looking for long term and click "like" for only those who state the same. I had the same experience with POF. Yuck, these guys are just lazy pigs then. I'd say no thanks, even after they offer to meet up somewhere else. 2
Atticus9292012 Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Tinder may be your first problem. I've had nothjnf , but offers for sex from tinder. 1
aggie382 Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 A guy who suggests a first date at home only wants sex. I wouldn't even bother responding to the invite or suggesting another location because he's made his intentions clear. 2
Author Country_Girl Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 Tinder may be your first problem. I've had nothjnf , but offers for sex from tinder. I've tried other "dating" sites and got the same results :-/ 1
Gaeta Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 I've tried other "dating" sites and got the same results :-/ Yes but in the list of all the 'bad sites' this one is the baddest of the bads. 1
NJ123 Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 What if it's a woman that invites you to her house on a first date? This happened to me through OLD, but I turned her down due to different circumstances at the time, but is it likely she just wanted meaningless sex from me? 1
Author Country_Girl Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 Why? I've heard plenty of horror stories from best friends off eharmony, match, even Christian mingle lol! I just want to know why this is the worst site? 1
michellew Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 What if it's a woman that invites you to her house on a first date? This happened to me through OLD, but I turned her down due to different circumstances at the time, but is it likely she just wanted meaningless sex from me? Yes! Unless you mentioned being financially strapped, I can't think of any other reason. 1
Gaeta Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 I downloaded it and all it did is used my pictures from FB. I had no real profile and all you do is look at pictures and go Yes or No to them. Maybe where you are it's considered a dating website but where I am from it's a hook-up app. I deleted it after 1 week. 1
Pinkdisney Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 I had met a guy in Atlantic City playing cards and we clicked and he lived in NYC, I live in the suburbs. He asked me to come to the city the following friday night, he'd take me out to a nice dinner, etc. I got to his place and he thought it'd be nice to order in food (so far so good) but then we started drinking and fooling around and after getting to 3rd base + (just shy of actual sex) I felt awful and embarrassed and pretty much left feeling like a slut. I never again did or would do a stay-at-home first date. 1
NJ123 Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Yes! Unless you mentioned being financially strapped, I can't think of any other reason. Well, she told me she wanted to take it slow. We got along really well, but the problem was that she lived a bit far, and my car at the time wasn't in the best of shape. Also, I just feel like I made some other excuses to myself not to go. But I still regret it for some reason. 1
NJ123 Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 I had met a guy in Atlantic City playing cards and we clicked and he lived in NYC, I live in the suburbs. He asked me to come to the city the following friday night, he'd take me out to a nice dinner, etc. I got to his place and he thought it'd be nice to order in food (so far so good) but then we started drinking and fooling around and after getting to 3rd base + (just shy of actual sex) I felt awful and embarrassed and pretty much left feeling like a slut. I never again did or would do a stay-at-home first date. I live in the suburbs of NJ. 1
Author Country_Girl Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 I downloaded it and all it did is used my pictures from FB. I had no real profile and all you do is look at pictures and go Yes or No to them. Maybe where you are it's considered a dating website but where I am from it's a hook-up app. I deleted it after 1 week. From what I understand, you click 'like' if u if find the person attractive, Rex "x" if "no". You can only talk to (text) mutual likes. Not looking to hook up, stated in my bio. It's clearly stated. 1
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