fldoglover Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Hello Everyone! Before I start, let me say that even though I talk about aniexty, I definitely don't show it via texts or dates. Anyway, I was VERY casually dating a guy who I knew was a player and it wasn't going anywhere. As he started to pull away, one of his friends who I met started to causally talk to me. Once I was done with the original guy, his friend really swooped in and kept asking me out. I wasn't interested and didn't want to get a reputation. After a few weeks, I gave in and went on a date with him. After a few dates, I really started to like him. He picks me up, pays for dinner, met my friends and coworkers and I have met his. However, lately he hasn't been texting so much. He has however told me he likes me, likes hanging out with me and wants to see if we could possibley turn into something. He stays at my place a lot and still initiates conversation asking how my day was, talking about random things, etc. just not as much as before. He even admitted today that he "needs to do a better job" about planning dates. I of course have taken this as a negative and think he doesn't like me. We've been dating for about a month now but he hasn't brought up the talk yet. I always get like this in the beginning of dating/relationship. I Am finally letting my guard down and now I can't help but to think he's going to hurt me like my ex did. Anyways to just calm down?
preraph Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Stop focusing only on him. Start going out with friends and finding things to do. Do not always be available but not to play games, just try to stay busy so he doesn't get used to thinking it doesn't matter when he shows up because you'll be waiting -- which i know you are. If you make plans with your friends or family, he'll figure out he needs to follow through on making actual plans and will also have more respect for you and not take your affection for granted. 1
JChristie Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 you mentioned that he stays over... does that mean you are intimate? i know it isn't easy, but when we gals give too much away, it tips the men off that we have low self esteem. this is also felt to mean we could be "easy". it seems that he just was along for the ride since you were making things easy for him. by resisting their sexual advances (unless you really want to because you adore sex with him) is a good way to screen out the guys who just want to get laid for a while. these guys will break your heart. sometimes our biggest mistake is not being clear why we are attracted to someone. if we can get clear on that, as well as what we are looking for in a partner, we may have fewer short term intimate encounters, but we will be available when the right person comes along. 2
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