TheSnapper Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 I met a girl and fell in love, with the unfortunate reality that she lives in a fairly remote part of Eastern Europe and I live in a fairly remote part of Western Europe. We only spent one night together, but very quickly spoke of the importance we placed on one another and the intensity of what we felt for one another. There were a couple of impossibly romantic moments we shared, which I will just keep for myself if you all don't mind, before we had to say goodbye to one another. It was a tremendously difficult thing to leave each other. When I got back I assumed that I would gradually feel less intensely about her but I don't. In fact, if anything, two months down the line and having only been in sporadic contact, I feel more sure now that something incredibly special went on between us. I am convinced now that I have to go back and see her, as I was in the moment we left one another. But my basic fear is this - we both said how special the time we had together was for us, but we also spoke about it in the knowledge that it wouldn't go anywhere and wouldn't mean anything, since my life is here and hers is there and there is really no way for either of us to change that in the near future. In essence we said a lot of things to one another that we might not have said in a different situation: it is easier to say something hopelessly romantic when you are about up get on a flight across a continent than it is to say if you met someone who lives in your own town. So by going back am I chasing a dream that can never actually be made real? I am afraid that all I am going to do is ruin what we have both said is one of the most incredible nights of our lives. But on the other hand, I cannot stop thinking about her and need to do something before I go crazy. Has anyone been in a similar situation or do you have any impartial advice? All my friends just say '**** it, man, just go for it!' without really looking at it from the other side. Not much help!
ExpatInItaly Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 Just a question: if you've only been in sporadic contact, what leads you to believe she's thinking about you as intensely as you are about her? I don't mean that in a condescending way; I'm wondering if she has said something since that time to indicate she has similar feelings. Is there a way to initiate more frequent contact? I would try to speak more often and establish a real connection since you can't be sure of anything based only a few hours together. See where it goes from there.
Author TheSnapper Posted January 7, 2015 Author Posted January 7, 2015 Just a question: if you've only been in sporadic contact, what leads you to believe she's thinking about you as intensely as you are about her? I don't mean that in a condescending way; I'm wondering if she has said something since that time to indicate she has similar feelings. Is there a way to initiate more frequent contact? I would try to speak more often and establish a real connection since you can't be sure of anything based only a few hours together. See where it goes from there. I think the feeling is just that we both said a lot of intense stuff in person, and I get the impression neither of us really want to get into that online - if that makes sense. It's more just 'thinking about you x' kinda stuff, rather than going on and pouring our heart out each and every night when that's not really going to achieve anything.
preraph Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 Doesn't really matter whether you know for sure how she feels. If you have the ability to see her more and find out if there's something there, do it.
Assada Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 First of all. I think you should go. Its always great to travel, always nice to see old friends. Now back to reality! You dont know this girl. This girl doesnt know you. And by the way never say anything to someone that you dont mean. - It tells me the level of immaturity that you guys had I'm all for you meeting this person, and going at it, but it will probably be like meeting a new person. Just to give you the heads up. Keep your movie-like emotions in your pants for now
FitChick Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Talk on the phone, don't text. How she responds to you and your questions will tell you whether or not you should travel.
Author TheSnapper Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 First of all. I think you should go. Its always great to travel, always nice to see old friends. Now back to reality! You dont know this girl. This girl doesnt know you. And by the way never say anything to someone that you dont mean. - It tells me the level of immaturity that you guys had I'm all for you meeting this person, and going at it, but it will probably be like meeting a new person. Just to give you the heads up. Keep your movie-like emotions in your pants for now I think that was the attraction, that we didn't know one another and immediately felt something special was going on. Who said anything about saying things we didn't mean? My question isn't about whether it was immature or a Hollywood moment. I have no doubts about the experience, I'm just intrigued as to whether or not pursuing the situation is worthwhile or only going to break the spell.
Recommended Posts