TaylorSTexas Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 So I am in my early 30's and I am a fairly good dancer. I enjoy going out to listen to live music and jazz clubs. I have noticed in the past very frequently that every time I ask a woman I'm dating if she would like to dance when we are out, she seems very hesitant and usually is very apprehensive and doesn't want to do it. Also, the ones that do agree to dance (i.e. at a wedding) or at more formal events always say to me, "I've never danced with a guy before." I find this kind of odd. What do they mean by this? Does this sound weird to ya'll? I am very old fashioned and feel like dancing is a good way to connect with a woman and is less awkward than just sitting together at a table or a bar and talking the entire time.
Assada Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 Is there a question in there somewhere? Keep dancing with the chicks
Author TaylorSTexas Posted January 7, 2015 Author Posted January 7, 2015 Is there a question in there somewhere? Keep dancing with the chicks Yes, the question is... What do they mean by this "I've never danced with a guy before? It seems like most women don't want to dance with men and don't know how to dance with a guy.
todreaminblue Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 Yes, the question is... What do they mean by this "I've never danced with a guy before? It seems like most women don't want to dance with men and don't know how to dance with a guy. is it during slow songs you ask.....or are the dances you go to more formal than a dj with pop music..more formal dance styles......deb
JChristie Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 i think it's great that you are a man who loves to dance. people aren't dancing as much as they used to, in general. plus, we have more exposure to different styles of dancing than we may have had 30 years or more ago. most likely you can take this at face value, if a girl says she hasn't danced with a guy, than she hasn't. there is a distant chance the your dancing just doesn't gel with them. but like all relationship stuff, you would be Don Juan or Casanova or John Hamm if you gelled with all the girls. keep dancing. if you find a girl you like, offer to teach her to dance.. 1
Danda Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 (edited) Are you talking old school dancing? I really wish that art was still around. It's a very seductive and intimate experience, the old school way with the guy leading the gal by the hip and hand. Usually in the beginning it's a little awkward, but as she grows more comfortable with you and starts relaxing, the dancing becomes more fluid and natural, as she starts to submit and let you move and lead her around. It's one of those intimate-without-words-and-yet-not-explicitly-sexual things, and those things in general are exceptionally rare these days. Which is probably why women are hesitant. We're used to a guy just talking at us until he can climb on top of us. There is rarely ever a dance of any sort, let alone a literal one. From the woman's perspective you're making a very romantic move. And for most women romance feels alien and weird, and also intimidating due to how personal and intimate it can be, whereas sex is often just sex, and modern 'romance' is just a sappy card or necklace or some other **** that's not actually romantic. Just because something is good doesn't mean it's by default not at all intimidating. I'd definitely say keep going for it, maybe be a bit playfully insistent to push her towards accepting. Now, if you're talking about bumpin' and grindin' all up on her like most younger guys dance these days, then you'l' probably get turned down because it's basically like being dry-humped half to death, and she needs to be mildly drunk and find you superficially hot, and even then. Edited January 8, 2015 by Danda 2
todreaminblue Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 as a man who knows how to dance ...you coudl say hey its ok you dotn knwo how i do the lead anyway.....just follow....without saying ill teach you ....you can show her......go slow..till she gains confidence....are e talking waltz foxtrot tango....or hip hop twerking........deb
preraph Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 I guess dancing with someone is out of vogue or something, but don't stop. Keep trying different clubs until you find one where people like to dance how you like to dance. 1
Jules Dash Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Yes, the question is... What do they mean by this "I've never danced with a guy before? It seems like most women don't want to dance with men and don't know how to dance with a guy. I've never run into this. I can't think of any woman that ever turned down the opportunity to dance or say they have never danced with a man. Women tend to be all about dancing.
FitChick Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 This is why I recommend to men who can't get dates that they take ballroom dancing lessons. So few men know how to dance and it's a good excuse to wrap your arms around a woman you've only just meet. I think that type of dancing is very erotic.
Diezel Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 This is why I recommend to men who can't get dates that they take ballroom dancing lessons. So few men know how to dance and it's a good excuse to wrap your arms around a woman you've only just meet. I think that type of dancing is very erotic. If you think ballroom dancing is erotic, might be time to take a salsa lesson or two. There'd have to be a Caution: Slippery When Wet sign placed by the floor.
doeblin Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 If you think ballroom dancing is erotic, might be time to take a salsa lesson or two. There'd have to be a Caution: Slippery When Wet sign placed by the floor. Yeah, wasn't salsa THE thing for single people in their 30s a couple of years ago?
WonderKid Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 I grew up on dancing in night clubs. Nothing but foreplay without the sex involved: grinding, humping, gripping. I got into swing dancing and I love it. At clubs, there is nothing wrong with a girl dancing on a girl, but when you are in a bar filled with straight guys also, it gets annoying. That's just me personally, though.
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