JADIE Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 Hello all, I am just looking for your opinions in why my boyfriend hasn't told me he is in love with me after 9 months of dating and living together. He shows me he loves me through his actions every day. He treats me like a princess, takes care of me in more ways that I could ask. We moved in together 6 months ago and it has been great! I just got a kitty and he refers to it as "our" kitty even though he doesn't like cats. He took me home to the other side of the country to meet his family for Christmas, they were so excited because apparently he hasn't brought many girls home and hasn't in several years... I KNOW he loves me, but is his definition of love different from mine? I just don't know why he hasn't told me. I am nervous to say it first because of possible rejection, plus, he is a gentleman old-school kind of guy and I think he would want to be the first one to say it anyway. He says "ily" to his family on the phone so I know he doesn't have a complex with saying it. I know it's just words and actions are greater than words, but you must cross the line sometime. What do you guys suggest? He's 34. Coming into the thread late but just thought I'd say...if he shows it, do you really need the words? I'm 4 yrs into a relationship with a man that took 3 yrs to say he loves me! He was devastated when his wife of 35yrs dumped him; 6 mos later we started dating; six months after that we first slept together; we still do not live together but are very close. For awhile I wondered why he never said it; couple times had the "What exactly am I to you?" talk and when I felt like it, I told him I loved him. For the longest time, he'd just say "Thank you" which was kinda awkward but I was pretty sure the man just couldn't say it. When he finally said it, I just grinned and said "I know...I love you too!" and now I hear it 3 or 4 times a day everyday...can't shut the guy up! My only advice would be to chill, ease up and let it come when it comes...be strong enough to state your feelings and let him come to terms with his when he's ready.
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