Omei Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 When I was 20/21 I thought I was really mature now im 28 look back and laugh at that. When im 38 im prob gonna think my maturity as 28 was a joke. We're in constant growth 3
veggirl Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 I mean you are in college hanging out at college parties and bars, obviously that is going to attract a young college crowd. It's really that simple. What in the world do you think you'd have in common with a 35 year old? lol seriously? 2
preraph Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 I attracted real young guys up until I was nearly 40! I ended up friends with most of them. In my 20s, it was a steady stream of them. I stayed over the limit, of course, and by the time I was in my 30s, there was only one and he was 21 that I took a shot to see what would happen. He was way too unestablished, undisciplined, irresponsible, and broke to keep dating. He was very good looking and a singer, and I might have been able to help him do that at least but he was too busy partying, so I wrote him off as in general not serious and only ambitious if it fell in his lap. I liked one guy in my 20s and 30s who I originally met when I think he was 19 and we were close and knew each other off and on for a decade or two and just really remained flirty friends and light making out. He knew he needed someone closer to his age and didn't have any trouble finding girls, so...He made the right choice. At your age, there IS a big gap between 18 and 21. Once you're 25, anyone over 21 may seem okay to you maturitywise. The older you get, probably the age range up and down you can tolerate will change because midtwenties, change slows down some for both you and them. At least by the late 20s, you can see if he guy is ever going to grow up or not -- and a lot of them don't. If they're not getting it together by 30, they're probably not ever going to. 1
A O Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 These young guys are within your age range, it is to be expected that they find women just slightly older than them appealing. It would be strange to find that dynamic strange. There are girls (and guys) that are really mature for their age, my experience of them is that their interests leads them to interact with a lot of older folk, thus they become worldly-wise beyond their years. These people are surprisingly easy to spot. Also, the older we get the better we become at masking our interest towards others. So, people your age and older are probably interested in you but are better at hiding this interest than the younger brigade. This may explain one of your curiosities... 1
Elle1975 Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 Maybe they think you're sexually more experienced than them and want to get into your pants. Can't say they are really "younger", a couple years is nothing. Now if they were 17 and you were 27.. Id call them jail baits and would suggest to change your behavior. 1
Adele0908 Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 Agree with veggirl. Also, I would say its because you are an attractive woman. Attractive and confident women date younger men all the time. Halle Berry, Jennifer Lopez, Demi Moore, Madonna. I think you should loosen up and just enjoy that you are pulling all the guys lol. But stay legal 1
Author Ashley S Posted January 9, 2015 Author Posted January 9, 2015 I think people get annoyed because every thread starts with a question that no one could possibly know the answer to. No Crystal ball around. I am not asking for an answer. It's just an open discussion, that's all my threads are about. No need for your crystal ball, I don't want it lol. I agree. Ashley, if you don't want to be asked out by 17-19 year olds, I would stop socializing where they predominate. Instead, hang out where 23-35 year olds hang out. I'm guessing there were none at your friend's teenage house parties...no surprise then if the only interest displayed came from teenagers. I hang out at bars a lot, and I go to parties, and friends houses that are in their 20's. I do hang around more 20 something year olds, but I also hang out with people that are 19 or 20, or 18 I knew from high school, college, or some of the parties etc. I hang around a big group of people, but you do have a point, and I understand what you are saying. Thank you. I mean you are in college hanging out at college parties and bars, obviously that is going to attract a young college crowd. It's really that simple. What in the world do you think you'd have in common with a 35 year old? lol seriously? Hahaha. I don't know. I tend to go for guys that are in their 30's a lot. I like their maturity haha. I see what you mean though. Thanks! Agree with veggirl. Also, I would say its because you are an attractive woman. Attractive and confident women date younger men all the time. Halle Berry, Jennifer Lopez, Demi Moore, Madonna. I think you should loosen up and just enjoy that you are pulling all the guys lol. But stay legal Hahaha. Aww thank you! I appreciate that. Yeah, I am not into the ones that aren't legal lol. That's actually always my pick up line "Hey! You legal yet?" Hahaha.
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