npjobs Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 So I'm a sophomore in college and I've seen this one really beautiful girl around, who also happens to be a sophomore. The thing is we don't have any classes or activities in common, so the only few times I see her around is in the college canteen/library. I've spoke to her just once, when we exchanged names, made some small talk etc. Also, whenever we pass or walk by each other, we always catch each other's eyes. I've also caught her staring at me a couple of times. She's really beautiful and I would love to get to know her better, but since this situation has been building up in my head since quite a while, I'm super nervous about being straightforward and direct. Any tips on how to ask her out?
WonderWoman911 Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 If your school is having any type of events,(party, sporting events, or anything) I would invite her to come out with you. When you see her again in the library or canteen, really ask her when she's alone or maybe with one other person. You don't want any type of distractions or people around her that will influence her way of thinking in a negative way. So when you see her, I would first ask how's she doing today. Then I would introduce myself and simply ask her" Would you like to go to the .... with me tomorrow" Don't feel intimated. She'll appreciate the fact you had to courage to approach her. Good luck. 1
coolheadal Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 You already spoken to her. Exchanged names. You have both made eye contact. So now just go up to her ask her out. Take her out for lunch, dinner and see a movie together. Take her to the park. I like taking them to the beach at night. Take off your shoes and walk in the sand and holding hands and staring into each other eyes. This is what love is all about. Your in the early stages and you need to get to the next level. Just be yourself. The self that had walked up to her and got her name etc. Just repeat this positive chant after me : "I want to ask out (say out loud) the girls name)" "I feel good inside" I am very positive" "I am ready" I am doing this" "I can ask her out" "I will ask her out" Write the above out on paper or stick the message in your phone. I use Evernote for this process. But can use whatever app you have for phone. This chant will put a positive marker in your brain so you can do what you need to do. Which is to get enough guts to ask her out and don't be afraid doing so! Good luck and let us know here on LS how you made out on your first date. Remember we're all behind you on this! Think positive (healthy and good to do so) 1
d0nnivain Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 Dating is a social convention to get to know somebody. Therefore it's OK to ask relative strangers on dates. I agree that you should see if anything fun is coming up on campus. Also if there is a more date like study place nearby. At my school, people used to study at a local fast food chain. Hence, do you want to get together & study on Tuesday at that chain was more of a date then the library because there was food & you could talk (but not too loudly because there were people studying)
Assada Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 Dont ask her out just yet. Pretend you need help with one of your classes, and ask what she's studying. Let her talk for as long as she can. - Notice, I didnt say that you should do all the talking. If that fizzles quickly, ask her if she knows any place where people hang out after school. Tell her that she looks like she's socially hip to whats going on. -If you get positive vibes, ask her for her number
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