Markholland Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 Hey I will try and keep this as quick and easy as possible I'm on my phone so please excuse the lack of punture ! So here's the low down iv known a girl for a while who was one of my cousins best friend As of late we have been going out drinking a lot and partying every time we get drunk we get very flirty with each other to the point one time we had sex ! We also talk about going out on a date and other stuff She calls me her bae (BABE) when drunk she also talks about having babies and how great they would look and how we are getting married as of recently she also says it sobar now We text flirt all the time sort of in a joking matter putting hearts in our messesges calling each other babe and wishing each other a good day I asked her out on a date and she said yes Now the problem is this all started as a joke to annoy an ex of mine that she also does not like but it seems to be getting more serious between us and what also concerns me is she is a very friendly jokingly person I'm now confused if she is being serious or is this still one big joke ! what are your thoughts ?
WonderWoman911 Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 Since you see that things are becoming more serious and that's isn't what you want, I would stop with the flirty text messages, hearts in the messages, etc. and even the amount of times you text her throughout the day. And if she asks you why you don't text as much or flirty as you use to, I would tell her that you just want to slow down with everything since things seem to be moving fast between the two of you. My question to you is, are you just dealing with this girl to retaliate against your ex? Although this new girl doesn't like your ex, it's not fair for you to string along this girls feelings for your enjoyment to annoy your ex gf.
evanescentworld Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 Actually, WonderWoman911, as he asked her out on a date, it could be EXACTLY what he wants... OP, the time to man up has arrived. I think you and she need to have the 'exclusive/commitment' talk, and sooner, rather than later. Because if you two are approaching this from different tangents - someone is going to get hurt. Deal with it, asap. Talk.
Satu Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 I know you haven't realised it yet, but the way your are using/abusing alcohol is very unhealthy. 1
WonderWoman911 Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 Actually, WonderWoman911, as he asked her out on a date, it could be EXACTLY what he wants.. . Oh ok. I didn't see the part in the post where he "asked her out on a date". I only see where he says they "talked about" going on a date.
coolheadal Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 Jokes can turn into what you want it to be. But go ahead ask her out on a date. But keep in mind it was a joke when all this started. Let her lead and see what reaction you get from the date. Then you'll know if she's serious or not? If you choose not go on the date then you'll never get this answer to your riddle? The only person that knows this answer is that girl!
GoBlue Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Most women do not accept a date to continue on in a joke. If she didn't have interest she probably would have cut ties after your little sex experience. There is no need to overthink it or let it be a source of anxiety. If you really want to have a meaningful relationship with her, or any other woman for that matter, then re-thinking your approach would be in order. Respect is the key ingredient to love, and love is the key ingredient to meaningful relationship. It is impossible to respect a person with whom you are having casual sex. Doesn't matter what society or anyone else tells you, love is a commitment and it always puts the needs of the other person ahead of your own. My suggestion - treat her like you would want someone to treat your sister, mother, or some other friend whom you respect and love. Stepping off the soap-box now! Good luck, my thoughts and prayers are with you.
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